Welcome to the StepTalk Blogs!
Create your own personal blog and start sharing what's on your mind. Blogs are your own personal space for venting, asking questions, sharing your experiences, posting your favorite recipes, discussing your favorite shows, etc. This is your space to use as you please. You can manage your own blog posts as well as control the commenting on them.
When posting blogs, remember to add meaningful tags to your posts in order to help others find your blog posts when searching. This also helps you find your blogs later. Tags are fully searchable and allow you to organize your blogs.
Start your blog now!
Recent Blog Posts
I know it's a holiday weekend and I don't know how much the blog will be up and going. MIL has offered to take SD for the Thanksgiving Day which I think is the best choice. My father is recently recovering from a major operation not to mention that having SD around over the past several years on a Good Day has been very tense (DH husband watches out for every single nasty word/gesture/etc that might be a slight to his daugher). I've suggested to DH that perhaps the best option is for SD to go with MIL so I/we can relax for once.
My husband and I have been having minor issues with SD 17. I always have disagreements with my husband stating SD just comes around when it is convenient for her. The issue I'm having now is that I happened to over hear my husband talking to SD on the phone last night, he told her he would be leaving her 20 dollars in the back yard gutter. I know 20 is not alot of money but the point is that he is keeping this from me. What else is he keeping from me? What is this teaching the SDS? I was very upset only because he was not going to tell me.
Well, we got the report card in the mail today. It looks really good!! All of the perseverance and hard work paid off. Only two more trimesters until summer.
Ss got 5 A's, 2 B's and 1 C. That is awesome! The C was in Spanish. That's the only class that we can't track the assignments online. Not to mention, neither of us speak Spanish. Anyway, we are working on that one.
So, we are keeping ss off of ADD medication for now. It's more work but I think the benefits are worth it.
Dawn
The last time DH went to counseling with the kids. BM sat in between the kids on the couch while DH sat in a chair opposite of them. Metaphorically, I think it says it all. (yes my opinion all along is PAS) So this time. DH asked the counselor if BM could not participate in this session so that he would have alone time to talk to the kids. So....when the kids arrived, the first thing SD said is, "Dad, keeping Mom away isn't going to change our opinions". Why couldn't Bm just keep her mouth shut and say this time you are going alone with Dad, and support it?
So DH is home for this weekend. So he calls bm to get ss7. She says that he has a soccor game saturday morning and we can meet her there. DH says he'll take hom to soccer, she says no. So he doesn't want to argue, he says fine. So it's Saturday, i get up, get my self ready and DD ready, it's really early. Then DH calls to say that we are on are way. She says that now SS has a sleepover tonight and can't come. DH says he wants to talk to SS, and only after SS realizes that it's DH on the phone that he begs to talk to him. SS said that he not coming over, but that he wants to.
ok, they came to visit today....so we were going to the movies in the afternoon of course she has a say in which movie we are goign to see (ok)no big deal , so she goes to get time table ,so i tell my husband let's go out to eat ,well all hell broke loose cause she didn't want to go..cause she didn;t have a say in that.....so the whole mood was change about everything ...she also got upset beacuse i went into her old room to get something that belongs to me. it never fricking changes !!!!!!then it just snowball into a bunch of other things...so what are they doing now?
Ok, so if you dont know my situation the DH is deployed and i have visitation with my SD ordered by the Court, legal and everything. But EVERY time she visits she lets stuff leak. Last time it was that the Ex (her mom) was going to hit me if i ever tried to talk to her again at the custody change and that her mom was calling my child fat. Well I get her tonight and she tells me that she was in a play today at school. By order of the court, i am supposed to be notified 48 hours in advance of school functions. GGGRRRRRR. My question is, how do people like this get away with EVERYTHING???
so dh went to his individual counseling session the other day and shared bb's latest excursion into the city (her stalking halloween appearance). the counselor was freaked out. he sent the judge a letter informing him that dh has completed his counseling and that he doesn't think it would be good to continue joint counseling at this point in time. hallelujah. then the counselor began talking about how his last session with bb he really got her to open up and how detrimental her childhood was and blahdy, blah, blah, blah. WHO CARES?! sorry.
WOW! I just wanted to wish all of you a Happy Thanksgiving and your responses made me cry! We are one lucky bunch of people! God bless all of you!!!
Advice from the book Games Divorced People Play
"Successful After Divorce relationships consist of four basic elements:
1. Courtesy,
2. Financial Commitment,
3. Parental Commitment, and
4. Minimal Personal Contact.
"Courtesy means treating your ex as you would like to be treated. Cut the barbs, attacks, put downs and getting back ats.
"...the greater the contact the higher the probability for hassle. Positive interaction hinges on the divorced couple being emotionally unhooked and available for honest, game free transactions."
Pages
