For the past 13 years both my husband and his ex have left the majority of the chlld rearing of their boys to me. I have been consistant in all of the rewards and punishments, what went for the older son would stand for the younger son.
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I can't stand the biomom! She always wants to switch weekends and/or days that we have him. I don't understand why she does this all the time, does she do this to irritate us or break the cycle of letting us see my stepson? The schedule is so not steady. We only see him 8 times a month and yet she has to screw up the flow. I believe in seeing our stepson as scheduled and not break up the weekend because she wants to switch all the time. I already feel that we don't see him enough and then on top of that break the schedule flow. Has anyone been in this situation?
My husband and I had a really great talk last night and I think he finally sees things clearly now. It's been really hard getting him to see the big picture with regards to his son. He refused to even consider the fact that his son was one way with me and my kids and another way entirely when he was around. Not to mention finally getting him to see how jealous, bitter and resentful he is thanks to his mother.
I'm told once again. That's just the way she is..that's why she has no friends. Don't take it personally!
The 30 yr old called tonight "Is my Dad there?" No, he's not. He's at work. "OK I'll call him there." OK ""Bye" I never asked how she was, or how the new baby is. I'm so tired of trying. And of course she had nothing to say to me as usual.
So without anyone (me) trying anymore...
I don't want this to turn into open hostility. I'm told by everyone, father included, that she is soo much like her mother....(who is openly nasty, spiteful, manipulative, evil)
Is there anybody out there who was faced with the ex-wife picking up a little kid from your wedding reception?
I can't believe my SS's mommy told my fiance that he should reward their little boy for less than good behavior! I just have to share this one...
Have a good day on Sunday! It's been really nice coming to talk on this website to express our feelings and get the support from each other...You are all wonderful people.
Do you think it's wrong, now that SS is old enough to report back things to his mother to fuel the money fit she is in, to put my foot down about him coming here for visits?
He's 15 1/2 now and everytime he comes here, he tells her all about something new we might have that she can't possibly afford. He's also become very sneaky and I'm afraid of him stealing confidential information about our life.
When I first starting dating my BF I was nervous to tell him anything about my previous relationship. In all honesty, I was really embarrassed that I let myself be treated badly by a man. I was embarrassed that I spent three years with someone and I couldn't see just how bad of a person he really was.
Now I think my BF is feeling the same thing. I think he is embarrassed by his ex's constant harassing him and her eratic behavior, so he hasn't been telling me about it.