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We are trying to get a house right now, as I wrote last week. Well to do that, BF's mom is going to the bank for us b/c we can't get a loan ourselves. Well, over the weekend, SD16 (conniving little b****) has a temper tantrum b/c she won't be able to "control" the new house like she does here (she actually said this to BF's mom), and doesn't want us to move.
She wears Target-brand flip flops...at least that's what BM was wearing the last time I saw her.
BM went back to the BF who beat her up.
SD11 called her dad last Thursday and begged him to come pick her up. They had gone over to the BF's house and SD absolutely did not want to be there. So DH did. BM actually let him.
Well if things weren't bad enough, my mom went into the hospital Friday. After spending my weekend there with her, it turns out she is passing more kidney stone pieces...and all the stress of my older brother's passing has caused her to develop shingles...and if that's not enough they found a spot on her lung while doing all this testing (my brother died from lung cancer). So all is bad on the mom front.
Dh says to me yesterday... Oh.. we were invited to BM's bio daughter (not dh's in any way) upcoming 4th bday party. I said, no.. YOU were invited.. there is no way that woman invited me.. remember.. I dont exist, I dont count I am nobody (bm's words).. dh says.. actually.. she said you as well.. she was very specific about that. He said he told her he would let me know.
BM was served this morning with the petition to modify custody. BF's lawyer said that she was uncharacteristically calm when he served her with the papers. He is used to her flipping out and making a scene, but she was completely the opposite today. I think that's because it was in a different venue in front of the DA and judge that she had never seen before, so she was trying to make a good impression and preserve her reputation (since it's ruined in both her county and ours). I also assume that she knew this was coming.
My dh went to pick up the skids on Friday afternoon. He got there at 1:40pm (we live an hour and a half away)... He is told the skids have not had lunch. UMMMMMM... its almost 2pm and she has not bothered to feed her children lunch. Now.. DH and I have been trying to conserve $$ and have decided to go with not spending frivolously.. THIS is an added expense, as now she expected my dh to DEAL WITH his kids being hungry, yet they have been at her place ALL MORNING AND early afternoon. What kind of person DOES THIS???
We all travel on journeys for different reasons. Me, I ended my fury with the ex and steps, or rather they with me. Even so, I've struggled with my choices, behavior and the consequences that my being influenced. For a long time now, although I haven't written much on ST, I watch and occasionally respond because if it weren't for this group, I may not have survived. So came the retreat...
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Well , some lady who has been in contact since sd took off , and another social worker from hubby's work would like to get sd, hubby and i together for mediation ... great ... but i know sd wont want me there... which is fine i know she has issues, but before she left she never said half of the crap she's saying now...
i do feel a little pissed as i have been involved for 13 years of her life.
Well, the skids came over for the first time in a month. I didn't even acknowledge SD16 b/c she is just awful and I was not going to spend the weekend fighting with her. SS9 was great and I had a good time with him. He's a good boy. BF took the kids over to show them the house we are buying. Well, of course SD16 has a total fit, crying and saying she's not coming back here again to see her dad b/c she hates him, hates me and so on and so on. SS9 was really into the idea of moving into the new house until he saw his sister's reaction, so now he's having second thoughts.
BM and BF are going to court over her suing him for more CS on Monday. At that time, BF's lawyer will be serving her with the petition to modify custody. He's asking for 80/20 custody with BM doing the driving. They're also asking that a GAL be appointed for SS who will be doing a home visit to BM's to see the condition of the environment there. They're trying to stipulate that BM must have a job and that the house must be cleaned up and suitable before SS can move back in.
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