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It's been a long time since I've posted. I lurk occasionally to see what is up with everyone. My SD ran away last March or April after DH and I reunited and her drug/alcohol abuse was uncovered. The counselor said she tested one step below drug addiction... Her BM ended up moving to our town (her job let her work remotely) to get SD through school. DH was sure she was going to come back and we have maintained her room and car insurance all these months... even though she couldn't drive after he found out she was drinking and driving.
I was at work and a lady came in to see me for an appointment. We got to talking about people we both knew and where we lived. She mentioned that her son was going through an awful divorce but luckily had no kids. I told her I sympathized because of the drama we've had from BM. I noticed that she used to work for the person who BF has had business insurance with for 8 years. It's a small world, so I asked her if she knew BF. She said, "Yes! I know him well! He was married to (BM's name).
I guess it's about time I say hello to everyone on here instead of just lurking.
I'm glad I found this site. It's nice to know I'm not the only person with these same thoughts and feelings.
It seems pretty unfair to us 2nd wives doesn't it? My truthful testimony goes like this:
I question whether my SS10 is biologically my husband's child.
He was conceived during a casual sexual relationship-as acknowledged by both mom and dad. My DH didn't request testing but has said that he has always wondered and would like to know.
My other SS7 looks like his mom but is built exactly like his dad. Older SS10 looks nothing like his dad (my DH) and I have always wondered if he is biologically his.
things have been better, my family unit has been functioning well enough for me to not even feel the need to get on this site and spill for quite a long time now, i have been mostly content. sometimes, happy. i caught my stepson cleaning his room (this never happens), then he informs me that he wants his room to look good when his mom comes over. daddy promised his mommy she could come over. am i wrong to be furious about not even being asked if i would be ok with this?
Hopefully I won't get flamed for this, and hopefully anyone who takes the time to read this very long essay will understand it's an exercise in generalities, not expected in any way to fit every BM, or give specific answers to anyone's problems. I use myself and my situation to illustrate my points, b/c ultimately, I can't speak for anyone else, but this is what my experience as a wife, divorcee, and SM have shown me to be true. 
And let me tell you why. Dh and I have been trying to have a baby for a year and 8 mths now. We have had 3 miscarriages in a 9 month span.. the most recent being the end of June. Each of those times, the home tests did not register a pregnancy, but the blood work did. The blood work had also indicated that the pregnancies were not viable since pretty much the beginning of each. Fast forward to this month..
This is the third week that school has been in session, and SS has now missed more days than he has gone. He hasn't been in school all week due to a "severe upper respiratory and viral infection". BM sent BF some emails last night requesting to switch weekends because of this. BF can't talk to SS directly because BM has no phone...so he was stuck relying on what BM said SS wanted to do which is exactly how BM wants it. BF was nice and said that they could switch weekends if that's what SS wanted.
Hey guys and gals, haven't posted in a while but BM is as much a PITA as ever. I previously wrote about her refusing to pay her share of an uninsured medical bill for SD to the tune of $800 which we had to pay along with our portion of $3200. My DH decided to let it go (big issue with me but trying to get over it and move on, it's not working, lol).
I know there are a few people here in various stages of custody order changes. My SS12 wants to come and live with us, we’ve been talking about it over the summer and have seen a lawyer once already. We would have a pretty good case, there are documented police visits and psych evaluations as a result of arguments BM has with SS15 that get WAY out of hand.
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