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I am really trying very hard NOT to be negative, b/c I generally am NOT a negative person, but I seem unable to shake this feeling I have. A little background....in Feb, SD16 went to live with BM. The day after DH got home from the hospital last week, SD called and wanted to come home. She said she hated it at BM's (no surprise to us). I reluctantly agreed to it out of guilt more than anything else. Dh had just been in a bad accident, and I was just so glad he was alive, that I probably would have said "yes" to just about anything. I also felt sorry for SD.
DH cooked us all dinner and I got home about 45 mins before he had to leave for his job on our company's night shift. He made a really nice dinner, and the skids came in to eat...another family dinner. The boys were really pretty well behaved except for ss12...he was throwing food around in a mini-fit because he couldn't stay outside playing with his friends. DH was all on him and ss13 about being good today and for me, or else he would rip their arms off and beat them to death with the bloody ends.(I exaggerate, but he was pretty intense, although not worthy of calling CPS lol).
So.. as some of you know, my DH is in the US military... I have been dubbed in their system as wife #2 for 3.5 yrs now. There is even a notation NEXT TO my name. DH hasnt been married to the ex since early 2001. YET, he forwards me an email today as there is something wrong w/MY date of birth. (huh?) There is a form that needs to be filled out, as there is a conflict in two different systems.
First I want to say that I am so glad to have stumbles across this website. This is all new to me and I do need advice. I've been with my Fiance for a year now and he has a 17 year old daughter that lives with him, which lives with us now. Us being Myself of course, lol and I have a 23 year old son working his way through college, he is a very respectful, caring considerate young man. I also have a 20 year old son still finding himself has ADHD disrespects me now and again but would never and has never disrespected my Fiance'.
Had some drama last time SD16 was here. She tried to mess up our plans to get a new house. It didn't work, but I'm anxious about her coming around again. After last time, she told her father she wasn't coming over again for a long time, but I don't know if it was true or just another empty threat. I'm hoping beyond hope that she meant it. They are due over here again this weekend and I don't know if I can handle two days of that little brat in my house. It's only Wednesday and I'm already having anxiety attacks over it.
I googled "My husband's ex-wife is unbearable..."
I'm not sure what I was even hoping for. I was broken and lost. My husband's ex-wife was causing so much havoc in my life that I was ready to walk away.
I stumbled upon this site because someone else had felt the EXACT same way as me.
Our lawyer called today and she has received the counter suit/complaint from BM's lawyer about us asking for 50/50 time. I am anxious to see what she has in her complaint. The lawyer said of course we will not like what she has to say but she is getting them into the mail to us so we will be getting them before weeks end.
So I've been helping F pull together documents for upcoming meeting with lawyer, under the idea that the more we do ahead of time the less we're doing at 250 an hour.
Filling out the "custody agreement" document, not like she's going to sign it or anything, but it's a starting point right? This became F's personal "wish list" for custody, and actually ended up being pretty fun to talk through for both of us....
The parties agree that:
The custody of the children shall be as follows:
Legal custody:
will be granted to father
Dad I guess you aren't going to email me back. My head is still hurting from this stress you are causing. I'm going to bed in 5 minutes and don't want to talk to you except through an email. You are hurting me bad and pushing me away big time. At least my mom cares about my feelings!
SS
Of course "he" only wants to talk to BF through email...so that BM can respond and pretend to be SS and say what SHE feels but try to make it sound like it's coming from SS.
BF got an email from BM asking him to call her and speak to SS. Well, how is he supposed to call when she doesn't have a phone? So he called BM's parents' house and asked if she was around. BM's mother said no...which started into a 20 minute conversation on BM's mother's opinion on how BF shouldn't "take SS from BM". She kept saying that SS has always been taken care of. Yes, maybe by them, but not by BM.
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