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WTF

ferretmom's picture

H just announced that he is going to take a job driving over the road. He would only be home one weekend a month. I told him there was no way I would stay in a house alone for that long with sd. So he decides she will go live with MIL, he hasn't asked her if it's okay or not. MIL doesn't even want sd in her house so why does he think she'll allow her to live there?? His mother and sf are not in the best of health and can barely take care of themselves much less sd. Then he says that before he leaves he's going to have the internet and satellite disconnected.

Santa

southernshellgirl's picture

Just curious about all of those who have already established what happens Christmas when you have both bio and stepkids.

Dh and are are having to decide how it will be for the first time this Christmas because this is the first Christmas for BD. (Although I have been attempting to discuss it with DH since SD's first Christmas four years ago, but of course, he put it off saying we could figure it out later. It's later now!)

Mom's Birthday..and then some

bewitched's picture

Had a great afternoon for Mom's birthday yesterday. Just me, my sis, Mom & Dad. H played his poker with his buddies. Mom loved her gift, we had fun. Mom turned 76. And I gotta tell ya, my Dad brought tears to my eyes. Dad had a major stroke 5 years ago. It's hard for him to get around much. But...he bought Mom chocolates, a new hair dryer (bless him, I visualize him standing at Walmart, trying to determine which hair dryer would be just right), but the trump was the card. Mom was so beautiful (still is). Dad always said the first time he saw her, he knew he would marry her.

SS 15th Birthday....

Chel Bell's picture

It is tomorrow (monday). DH did try to call him a few days ago , as planned on SS cell phone, but nothing came of it, DH just left him a message. Now of course my DH wants to talk to his son on his b-day, but it looks like he will have to call their home phone to get a hold of him. BM will love to hear DH's voice, I'm sure! I hope SS answers. DH is going to call early in the a.m. as in hope to catch SS before he heads off to school, and has a better shot at reaching him, and possibly BM will not be there.???

A Big Thank You to All

NCMilGal's picture

I just wanted to say thank you to all of you.

Thank you for sharing your stories, your frustrations, your support. Thanks for being non-judgemental. Because of all of you I have realized:

I have the best DH in the world.

My SD is actually a wonderful kid (but you can bet I'll be griping come visitation time!)

BM could be much, much, omg much worse.

I am not a bad person for thinking the thoughts I do.

A question for all? Which turned into a Venting.

Not.a.Mom's picture

For all the ladies and gentlemen here I'm curious if you ever feel like I do right now??? I find it occurs to me that DH's kids don't really care much if they see me or not. It kind of stings. If DH is ever asked about visits it is always when is *he* going to visit. I understand that I'm not their parent. I understand that. I'm just I guess a bit floored that it seems they wouldn't care one way or another if I dropped dead. One hasn't spoken to me for over a month and the other spent all weekend being a smartmouth with an attitude.

anyone ever think of this...

smurfy1smile's picture

BM complain about how much the kid(s) cost them. Do you think they realze how much they "save" when the kid(s) are with the other parent for parenting time? We figured we save BM at least $50 every weekend that we have baby with the cost of diapers, wipes, formula, baby food, clothes, toys, diaper cream, bath stuff, laundry, wear and tear on her carseat and baby stuff etc not including transportation to and from. We meet BM but not half way we picked a spot that is like 20 miles for her and like 35 for us. So we are even nice about not asking her to drive half-way.

court part 2

smurfy1smile's picture

BF went to court this past week with his lawyer in tow. BM's lawyer is a real piece of work. He told me I was on crack when I asked a reasonable question. Anywho, neither party could come to a temporary agreement so now each lawyer has to submit a proposal by Wed of this coming week and the judge will decide temporary parenting time and support. BM wants way too much money but it is what the calculator says. She won't compromise on anything. BF wants 50/50 and BM wants sole physical and legal custody.

The Kid is home from Military School for Thxgiving.

Rags's picture

And he is awesome! He is two inches taller (because he now stands up strait, tall and proud) and has lost ~35lbs. He has been in ZERO trouble so far and his leaders and instructors all speak very highly of him and his performance. His grades are a little better than they were last year but that is a significant accomplishment since he is now in a very rigorous college prep program .

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