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How do I live 50% of my life with a sd11 who has verbalized how much she hates me and wishes I wasn't in her life? How do I continue to have compassion for a child who is mean to everyone and everything at a moment's notice? My reaction is to want to shut down and completely withdraw from her. I speak when she initiates, I make very little eye contact, and I avoid her like the plague for fear of taking on her wrath. She is an angry angry mean and selfish child who has a severely screwed up mother (borderline personlity disorder, which= highly volatile and irrational).
So BM asked in the temporary order that she always gets xmas eve and BF gets xmas day at 9am. Both attorneys sent this info to the judge for the temp order that we should get in the next day or two. Anyway, BF emailed BM on Sunday and asked that she drop FSS1 off at BF's parents house on xmas at 9am.
I've been a little down this past week, because I feel my HB doesn't support me when it matters. I was looking at all of my past blogs and just sobbing. Nearly every one of them are repeated later on down the road. To me that is a sign that it's not getting better like I may have thought. The same issues are ongoing. I just can't get over the fact that the person whom I married and made vows with is still so wipped by his ex! It makes me wonder if it was really over. I can't even look at him, touch him or be intimate with him the way I should as a wife.
I need to loose 20 pounds...being un happy for the past year i have eaten my way to happiness...anyone have any good diets
I poured my heart out last night and even broke down in tears about the bills he pays and the insurance policy...He had nothing to say....
StepBrats band recital is tomorrow night at her middle school (approximatley a 1 hour drive each way from our house). Now, Her and DH have known about this band recital for over two weeks. They have both also known that she must have a nice pair of black pants, black shoes, and a white shirt for said recital. Last weekend DH was going to take Step Brat to the PX (military department store about an hour away) to get her said clothing. Step Brat came down staires and said she had the pants and white shirt already so he just took her to get the black shoes...
Brief history....DH and BM have court ordered joint custody of SS7. Because of "issues" with SS and DH work schedule...he travels during the week 40% of the time, it was agreed upon by DH and BM that SS would live with her full-time and come to our home EOW. This was supposed to be a trial basis. However,BM has not allowed SS to visit EOW since June of this year. We have only seen him once briefly at his open house at school. Her reason is because she wants this new EOW agreement set by the court. We refuse to go back to court as this is an every year occurence...her witholding visitation.
We took SS to his school class program last night and BM was there. NO big deal we just avoided her. Well the kids where each asked who was most important to them and why and ss said, my dad and my stepmom Angie and the reason he gave for me was. Because she takes care of me and does fun stuff for me and goes to all my games and cheers the loudest. She tucks me in and night and is alway nice to me and makes sure all my homework is done right. She's a good mom. He also gave me a stain glass window picture they made in class.
My fiance and I were joking about how we will need to have the sex talk with his boy crazy 7 year old daughter early in life to help encourage her away from teenage pregnancy, then fiance says well, teen pregnancy may be genetic since him and her mom had her in their teens, his dad had a kid in his teens and her mother did.
Then, just last night we were talking about how much I love shoes and I reminded him that his daughter loves shoes very much also and I said maybe that's my influence - and he says no, that's just genetic.
BM is the custodial parent, with DH having SS every other weekend. If BM sends SS to stay with his Nanna about 3 nights a week (minimum), is that being neglectful? SS would say he absolutely LOVES being at Nanna's. But DH would like to have SS over HERE if he is not with BM.
SS would rather be at Nanna's than anywhere else. It's like Disneyland for him. And quite frankly, I swear that his Nanna secretly thinks she is his birth mother.
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