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Another day from H hell. He's been screaming at me all day-if you read my prior blog, it started with me asking about the tax debt he owes on HIS house (he has not paid property tax on it since he got it in 2002) and my refusal to put it on MY credit card.
Since then, that's all it's been today. I made the comment that A&P class is really hard for me today (mix insomnia with being upset and then try to memorize all the muscles in the body).
Well ss just got home from school and asked me if i picked up his game card for his computer so i asked what he did with the 40.00 he got to go to his moms for bus fare and a haircut.Guess where it went 20.00 for gas money for bm to drive him home which she isnt allowed here and is our money and the other 20.00 he spent on god knows what.I am so pissed.This is also the same day i took him out and spent 70.00 on a new pair of shoes for school!!!
I am so sick of the "wall" between DH and me. I swear, the man just CAN'T let himself be happy. We have been at an impasse for weeks, and I am really at a loss here.
First of all, we don't have any Zippy's or anything running around here that need our 24/7 attention like some of you poor gals/guys do. His kids are grown and, luckily, have been wonderful of late. My own daughter is 16, but she is so involved in school, sports, etc., it's not like she's the Zipster who needs our constant guidance.
As some of you know, we had SD's 15th birthday party this past Sunday. BM suggested to SD we have 15 of her friends over our house, (of course) for the party. We had to reign that back to 8 guests, as our house is not suitable for an indoor party of 15 rowdy teenagers, sorry BM.
But low and behold, we did.
Who was invited you ask? Why BM and her new(ish) boyfriend...of course.
Who made the guest list? BM did...once again inviting herself into my perfect little world.
DH, in an effort to keep the peace, obliged...but giving me a chance to offer an out. He said he would say no and take the blame if I REALLY wanted to.
Instead of saying no, I ordered wings and bought some fun snacks and bought beer. A LOT of beer.
On my part. I have just realized that having SS16 fulltime, is like having a permanent irritating houseguest, whats more I get to pay for the privelige of being constantly inconvenienced in my own home! I also realize on some level SS16 can feel this and I feel powerless to change it by myself. If DH would only step up to the plate and stop guilt parenting so much, I might be able to tolerate SS. I know at 18 SS will still be with us but we will no longer be "legally" responsible for him and that is some compensation.
Any thoughts about your situations?
Well my MIL is up here visiting with all of us for the week. Yesterday she spent the day with my son, & I.....we had a great day, and was a good time to catch up. Of course we talked alot about the skids. If it was not for her, we would know nothing. SS does seem to be doing quite well, is holding his grades up (first year of H.S.) and is getting into graphic design/art. He does have a flair for it, I hope he keeps it up.
About everything that is going on and what the proper age would be for kids to get out get a job and live on their own.Ok so dh says that as long as they are in school they can live with us which i agree to a certain extent.Maybe highschool years right?But past that they are adults and if they go to college are we still suppose to support them?Frick that means they can live with us into their late 20s i dont think so!!!
On the phone with H this morning. He told me he wanted to go to Texas and buy a lot this spring. Ummm, we did that last year. He made a down on a lot on Ebay :jawdrop: sight unseen, and of course it was up to me to get our money back when it wasn't a location we would want.
So if you have read my recent blogs about ss not wanting to take the bus and giving him the 40.00 to get his hair cut at bms house and bus fare to get home which he didnt take the bus but came home with nothing.He asked me this morning for another 40.00 for a game for his computer wtf i couldnt believe it after slamming the door on his dad in his face and hanging up on him.I told my dh he asked for this money and dh said he sure has some nerve.So dh said no fricken way!!!