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That blending a family would be sooo difficult?
I was a single mom to two boys that ran me through the ringer (no support in ANY capacity from their bio-dad)-I believe I have been through every situation a teen can throw at you with my guys, I had to get very tough on them, follow up and follow through with those young men-who in spite of me and some doozy parenting mistakes I made, doing great today.
THEN along comes DH and we get presented with SS full time (engagement present from SS'S BM-again Thanks BM)-NOTHING could have prepare me for this dynamic-
It has been 3 weekends already since sd came over.We made our minds up that sd and ss who lives with us he is 16 and sd is 14 almost 15 have to get on a bus to go back and forth from our house to bm house it saves us from driving 4 hours on the weekends of the visits.For them to get on a bus it is a 1/2 hour bus ride straight to our house and then back.Bm has never helped with transportation in 5 years in the beginning she met half way but it always ended in a big fight.So now that the kids are a little older we thought that they can hop on a bus.First let me tell you that they go to Toront
Well-seems as though SS16 is now "rewarded" with a later bedtime for his 1 hour of "consistent" mature behavior on the weekend(see Visiting the In-Laws blog)
DH deems SS16 has proven that he can
1. Get himself up (NOT)consistently
2. Hygene (DH came home at 10:15pm last night and had to yell at Zip to get in the shower he was supposed to be in at 9:30pm)consistently
3. Get himself to bed at a decent hour (I gave up and went to bed last night)
First of all, I want everyone to know that my name "betterman" does NOT mean that's
what I think of myself. It means I joined this blog to BECOME a "betterman".
Just wanted to make that clear.
Okay.....So where is the line drawn when it comes to your spouse ( male or female ) being
"too close" with the ex? And how do you bring this subject up without looking like your
insecure? or a freak?
Basic problem; My wife talks to her Ex just about every day. Could be texting, phone or
Sunday night my BD completed a homework essay on the computer and decided to just print it out Monday morning to take to school with her..It's a good thing that she decided to proof read it again before printing it out and taking it to school to turn it because she discovered that "someone" had gone onto the computer and "messed with" her assignment..She showed it to me and sure enough it had been "tampered with" and there were cuss words added to several parts of the paper!!
You know I found this place and I thought "How woneerful to find a place to vent, until it gets better." Now as I go back to read the blogs and posts I realize it isn't ever going to get any better. Just the same old Drama over and over and worst each time. Here are the things that I have a hard time dealing with at ther moment.
H went to visit his mom Sunday...I stayed home to study and take yet another exam. Many of his family were there, and he told them I'm taking A & P to go to Respiratory Therapy school. They all thought that was a great plan. And one of his sister in laws said she tried to take it, but it was too hard so she quit.
So far (fingers crossed) I've maintained an A, and am a week ahead of schedule. I can almost see the wheels turning in H's head-
I have been with my fiance for 5 years now, we have a son together. He has a 6 year old daughter from a previous relationship and she resides with us and we take care of her every need. My problem is her mother does nothing for her at all no support, takes her when she feels like it, but loves to show up to all of the child's school appointments and doctor appointments because the daughter is special needs and that is about all she does for her and all she has money for.
Ss took a industrial arts class(shop, basically) this trimester. We paid the materials fee. Ss made this little table thing. He stained it the same color as his new bedroom furniture that we bought him this past summer so he could use it at a night stand.
I guess ss must have told Bm that he made this table and now she wants it so ss can put it in her "new" rental house. Dh told her that he would leave it up to ss. Ss wouldn't really say. He is probably feeling the Bm guilt trip coming.
For those who don’t remember, in October last year BF and I sat down and created a schedule for visitation. I have 3 ss’s, the younger 2 live with BM and middle of last year the eldest one (13) came to live with us.
Just like you all, I’m sick and tried of BM making up her own drop off and pick up times and days for whenever it suits her. So that’s when the schedule comes in.
BM wasn’t happy with the first or 2nd schedule, so it was redone afew times until there was an agreement.
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