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Hi, this is my 1st post (and it’s quite long – sorry). Some background: I live in South Africa, have been married for 1 year, 4 months & had a honeymoon baby (7months). DH also has a daughter from a previous relationship. SD7 does not live with us, but with BM about 1700km (1060 miles) away from us. She visits 3 to 4 times a year for about 2 weeks at a time. (You’d think that that would be little enough time not to get all fed-up).
I am not a strong person and with everything going on i dont know how to handle it my dh and ss and i were all not talking to eachother and i tried to talk to my dh last night about me syepping back and not trying to parent his kids and he has ignored me all last night and today but today dh and ss are talking but im still being ignored why?I have no idea and im the one thats been getting shit on!!
So SS's 9th birthday is this next weekend. Yee ha here we go. DH and BM had a rule that the skids would have a "friend" bday party (sleepover, McDonalds the works) every other year (they still get family bday parties every year). This has been since the dawn of time and both skids are well aware of this. Well....both skids had their big friend parties last year. Low and behold SD comes home from school and asks me why SS gets to have a sleepover party this year when he had one last year AND her birthday just was and she didn't get one. Hmmm I say, he's not having a party here....
How do you disengage when your dh gets pissed off for doing that or he gets pissed off for asking kids to do something how do you get any piece of mind?
Well my DH won placement of his son,4 in court and they have split custody, so BM went from every 3 days to wed. 4-7 and EOW fri.@4 until Sun. @6 then my SS comes home, the court went on for a page about the importance of a child having a place to call home and it is soooo important since he is starting school in Sept. SO we thought life would be peaceful, NOT she has went more crazy, she has called my DH every day since the decision which was the 30 of Jan.
So yesterday dh and i had an argument but he came and apoligized for the way he acted.So he asks me if me dh and ss could sit down and have a talk about whats been going on so i agree well that was a big mistake!!I sat there and poured my heart out to ss and dh sat there and told him he had to take the bus from now on to bms and back well ss sat there and said and i quote"Its unnecessary for me to take the bus i want you guys to drive me and pick me up"well our answer was no still and all he cared about was this stupid game thats 40.00 he wants cause hes bored!!Then i proceed to tell him th
Going to be an interesting weekend.
Long ago and far away - SS 16-(aka)Zippy, Endora and DH sat down and had a family meeting to discuss a few house rules when we bought our "together house".
These 5 rules were discussed and agreed upon.
Rules:
Homework
Bed time
Hygiene
Cleanup
1 household chore
(as you can see I am quite a Task Master)
BF and I spent the day today drive for over two hours, each direction, to go to SD13's basketball game. After her game we took her out to lunch, her choice and went to a chocolate factory for a tour. We picked up a bunch of chocolate to take home. After we got home we made a pizza and watched a movie. A fun day, or so I thought. When we told SD13 that she had to get in the shower to get ready for tomorrow she started arguing, like she always does. SD13 knows that we need to be out of the house early tomorrow because we have a family day trip planned. We've been planning it for a month now.
So DH gets SS every other weekend until we go to court to get a visitation and joint/full custody order. He talks to SS every day when allowed to and had done so this week up until Friday
He as usual texted CBM and let her know he would be there to get SS by 7p.m.
Why when DH showed up last night and knocked on the door did she call 911- He could hear the dispatch on the other line, she said, he is stalking and harassing me, my children are scared, he has no court order and is trying to kidnap my son!
SS8 came over today and he was sick. Really sick. Temperature of 103 sick. My first thought was "I don't want this kid in my house sick. He will make my son (who is 10 months old) sick. He should stay with his mom or grandma."
But then I thought, well, if SS8 was my real son, he would be here if he was sick or not. It's just a part of having kids. Sometimes one gets sick and you deal with it.
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