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Okay everyone - this problem not as big as some others, but........BD is getting her kitten.

RustyHalo's picture

I had to leave work to go to a Dr. appt and I called FH on the way. Of course, he acts like there's nothing wrong. How do men do that? They say something to you KNOWING it has pissed you off and because I say I don't want to talk about this right now, they think it will magically go away - he'll get his way and ALL is right with the world. Well, I say to him - we need to talk about this cat thing. He says I just think it should be a "family" pet and belong to everybody. I said oh, like the dog is the "family" pet and belongs to everybody? This shuts him up.

Adult SKids believe BM to be a saint!

LONGTIME SM's picture

I helped raise my adult ss 35 and my adult sd 32 from the time they were 5-7 years old. Their BM was more concerned about her own life than raising them. BM wanted to be their friend instead of a parent so she provided no boundaries and rarely told them no. She sent them for visitation dirty and in rags. The clothing she sent on visitation had holes in them, coats were so dirty you would have sworn that they had been dragged in the mud! I sewed sds shirt on one visitation as I would not go out in public with SD wearing this shirt with the huge hole in it.

SP kids are driving me Nuts!!!

as's picture

What do you do when you get on to a SP for something and then she turns around and tells you your being rude and she is going to tell her nanna. Her nanna is the boss becuase that is who the kids live with. I feel like I am stepping on toes when I get on to my Sp daughter and Sp son. The kids are pretty well behaved around the grandparents they live with, but as soon as they get to my husbands and my house they go stir wild. They scream and fight, I have the Sp daughter screaming and crying at me saying I hate her and all this other stuff because I get on to her and her brother.

Being a step parent is the hardest job in the world.

NotTheRealMom's picture

I am 24 years old. My story begins about a year ago when I met the man of my dreams. The best friend of my brother in law, this man is everything I never knew I always wanted. He was living several states away at the time and in the process of separating from the Air Force. He would be moving into my area after the first of the year. He also has two little boys, 5 and 7, and an ex-wife. After he left the Air Force, he ended up moving into my 600 square foot shoebox. New relationships, as we all know, don't include personal space.

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step.parent's picture

I am new to this site and confess that at times, I am unsure about what some of the acroymns mean. When I first read, "My BS became angry," or something like that, I had to consider potential meanings of what a "BS" might be. Though some examples are fairly obvious, I still worry sometimes that I may misunderstand what other people are saying - I still don't know what "DH" means, for example - and I don't want to offend anyone or anything, either.

FH says no to my biodaughters planned bday gift because of the skids.

RustyHalo's picture

I'm driving my daughter home from school yesterday and we see a sign out at a friend of mine's house that says "FREE KITTENS". My daughter (she's 16) tells me she would love to have a kitten for her birthday (it's in November). We could never have an indoor cat before because I used to be severely allergic to cats, but I have outgrown that allergy. So, I said I will talk to FH about it.

DH doesn't have the same kind of relationship as EX-HUBBY and I.

BMandSMto6's picture

DH and I are total opposite with how we deal with our ex's. DH seems to let his ex get away with anything and everything. And my EX and I deal with things together...and that's how I feel it should be...especially when it's 50/50 custody. I just feel like I'm in control of my life but DH's ex is still in control of his. For an example, last year BM would pick up the skids after school every Wednesday and now that she signed one of the boys up for fall baseball (not discussing it with DH first) we have the skids until after SS's practice on every Wednesday.

I let FH get the skids ready for school this morning and it ended up being a disaster...

Manda's picture

So, FH doesn't think I do anything all day even though I get his kids off to school, make their lunches, clean the house EVERY day, take care of the dogs, do everyone's laundry, make dinner every night, truck skids around for sports or after school and do outside work, run errands, grocery shop and make sure the bills are paid. So, FH was home this morning when skids got up and went to school so I decided I'll let him deal with the morning routine including dealing with the skids arguing and all... So, I got to sleep in till 9:30am till I had to take FFH to pick up his work vehicle.

Website is godsend

alwaysme's picture

I just wanted to say, i am so grateful i have discovered this website. I thought i was starting to go insane and that i was the only step-parent who was having a hard time liking hubby's kids and dealing with a slightly mentally unstable selfish narcissitic ex (not wife though, thankgod)

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