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A Sun-Saturn conjunction in your 10th House of Career requires you to work extra hard today, but with shifty Uranus involved, things won't turn out as you expect. A surprising event at home can be the catalyst that starts a chain reaction and releases all kinds of emotions around you. But this doesn't have to be your battle. Carefully creating boundaries and then respecting them can help you move through this hard time with lovely grace.
Great - what the hell is gonna happen next?
Oh well, at least I will be dealing with it while having "lovely grace."
I am very excited to read other accounts and experiences from all of you guys. Just to know that there are other individuals out there who seem to be feeling the same things I am is wonderful. I'm actually not even a stepmom yet, but my fiance and i are planning to marry on halloween, so it's right around the corner. It has been a long and difficult journey for me...though I'm certain it has been for not only my fiance, but his daughter as well.
This is long, sorry!
I keep reading alot about PAS, and I think that BM is getting pretty good at it. Yesterday was the day the courts appointed for FH's weekly visit with SD8. While still busy at work, FH texts BM to "see" if he is going to get SD today. Here is how the convo went:
My DH has custody of his teenage boys and we buy them all their school clothes, sneakers jeans and everything.
I have always turned to my brother...he has always been there for me no matter what and never judges....I guess it's just an instict to call him for help cuz I know he'll be there....however HE'S hurting right now and I don't know how to help him. He got a close friend of ours pregnant and she aborted it without telling my brother...she did tell my bro of the situation AFTER she had the abortion... (don't get me wrong..I have always believed that it is a woman's choice and so does my brother) however I KNOW he's having a hard time with the news and I am also.
I am engaged to a wonderful man and he has a 10 yo daughter. He and his ex-wife were dating for 5 years before they had their daughter and they finally got married when she was almost 2 and divorced when she was 3. He’s ex is the one who decided to end the marriage. He and I have been together for almost 4 years and we do not have any child together. His ex has always had a problem with me, but lately it has been getting worse since he has told her of our upcoming nuptials.
FH and I had a party a week and a half ago with both our families and apparently his family was telling him that he's gained a lot of weight since we've been together... My mom heard his family saying that and of course made a comment about him actually eating home cooked meals now instead of take out (like his ex-wife used to order). I know FH has gained weight since we've been together but I don't cook unhealthy...I've actually LOST 30 lbs since we've been together!
Being a stepmom is really hard. My husband wants his kids involved in every activity possible which is great if he will pick them up from practice. He doesn't I have to do it all the time when I met him I told him I do not want to be a "soccer mom". I don't mind picking up my daughter because she communicates to me when she will have practice, while his kids tell him in advance and call me at the absolute last minute. We have all had discussions on communicating to me if they (his kids) need me to pick them up. They know if their dad is picking them up they don't have to tell me.
I'm liking BM more than DH lately. This is the strangest thing. DH called me today "just to say hi" he literally just wanted to say hi then he hung up. He can talk to BM for 20 or 30 minutes a freakin day for 4 months, but now he can't even talk to me for 5 minutes on my lunch break. At least he hasn't talked to BM for 3 days. That makes me happy. I've even looked at the phone bill (didn't tell him I was going to be doing that). He actually hasn't called her and she hasn't called him in 3 days.
Hello out there! I'm new to this sort of thing,so please bear with me. After a whirlwind relationship I became married once again, with a nice lady and her 9 year old son. The biological father was abusive i'm told and does not talk to his son or pay child support that I am aware of. I find that rehensible as I have 3 children from a previous marriage and pay support for my daughter as my sons have reached the age of emancipation. Hey just my opinion but biological fathers should support their children!
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