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BD 4 has been asking tons of q's. Why don't we want to stay married? Why don't we want to talk on the phone anymore? Do we not like each other anymore?
How in the world do I answer without hurting her relationship with her dad?
I cry. He doesn't. She told me this morning that she told him last night that I cry when she talks about him. She said, "He said, 'Oh...sorry."
She volunteers this stuff. I don't question. I know better than that.
But when she questions I freeze up.
And cry.
My father-in-law also showed up for the track meet yesterday. Loca Grande made a huge deal about him being there and gave him a huge hug, and asked all kinds of questions about his recent knee surgery. Showed great concern for him and MIL, said she can't wait to see them all at graduation next month...
When she turned her back for a minute, he just rolled his eyes at me, and made a gagging gesture. Too funny!
Then later, she asks, "Oh, yeah. What day is graduation? I have to ask off work..."
OMG, some people should not be allowed out in public!
Loca Grande drives over an hour to attend Lazy Boye's track meet yesterday. I was able to attend as well, since the meet was in the town where I teach. Even though I have totally disengaged from her since her psycho outburst in January, I made an effort to be nice and polite. I sat with her and her husband for a bit, but didn't speak unless she spoke to me. Anyway, Lazy Boye was running the mile, and it was very obvious he was going to come in last. She started cleaning up her things and actually left before he even crossed the finish line!
Tonight we did "game night" (Fridays) to which SS11 always asks to play video games even as a family - it almost always ends with NO but he is hopeful. SS9 likes the family interactions which is sweet.
So we did the Monopoly thing tonight and it went pretty well although SS9 thought the point was to end with the most money in hand not property so he saved thousands of dollars and paid rent all the time. SS11 bought LOADS of houses in the slums and almost went bankrupt.
So, last night I checked the mail when I got home. The Skid's report card was in the box. I opened the envelope and burst out laughing. Whay you may wonder ....... he made the high honor role GPA of 3.58.
My wife pops in the room and asks what is so funny. I handed her the report and she turned purple and started her "I am gonna kill that damned kid" mantra. She had to have repeated it 4 or 5 times.
She was more mad at him for making the honor role than she was when he flunked out of Boarding School (Military) at Christmas time.
Ladies - thanks for answering my last blog... I forgot to add a piece of info....
DH got BM to sign the revised Divorce Agreement! And it has been signed by a judge on March 23rd and is in the process of being filed with the court.
In the latest revision...
BM agrees to pay DH child support ($100 less per month than she is required) but she did agree
Her half of SD's health insurance
Half of all other expenses (maybe she would have been better agreeing to the $100 a month extra with prom and exam costs coming up!)
Better go and get your armor. -Jordan Sparks
After some intense emails between Mikayla and I, I told her I would open a dialogue with her mom, my EX. Needless to say, it's been hard for me to concentrate on anything all day.
I am getting sick of the "good luck" SD has. It seems that her entire life she has gotten what she wanted....from dad, BM, grandparents, friends, teachers, etc......before it's all over she will have this baby turn into something postive for her.
Her getting her way has ruined my relationship with her father. EX: she does something cruel to me. DH punishes her by taking her car. She screams and cries and gets it back the same day.
Earlier I was reading a post and someone responded that children should live with their mothers, hands down. What do you think? What are the circumstances a child should not be able to live with their mother? I am curious about the responses.
Just wondering whether you think all the dysfunction, stress, and drama is worth it.
I'm beginning to think you get one shot to really have a family, never mind a partner -- a first marriage where there are no kids. It seems like there are so many divided loyalties and complexities to blended families that they're nowhere close to being able to provide what a first marriage can.
Lately, I am just wondering if it is worth it and feel that it might not be.
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