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Brief history: my SD14 has recently moved in with us full time following a very troubling summer in which she has been acting out in all sorts of ways. Among other things I am concerned that she is sexually active. Although we have had many constructive conversations with her and she has admitted to other behaviour, she has denied this when asked. We did a trawl of her mobile phone and Facebook account when her problematic behaviour emerged, in an attempt to find out what had been going on, and found a number of messages suggesting that she has been active with more than one partner.
Yesterday was actually awesome. Yep. SD was nice and normal all day, pleasant, helpful, the whole nine yards. We ended up doing a collage project for DH"s B's kids with old photos and other papers of late B's. I ended up paying for most of it...but it was "priceless." Even baby acted normal, not like a raging monster. Do these people need ass-chewings? Or is it the dysfunctional cycle--anger then calm, anger, then calm? I can't stand that and neither can DH.
I read this on Abby today. I know, there goes another of Rags' man cards.
Thoughts?
DEAR ABBY: I'm a 23-year-old woman who has been helping to raise my three adorable godchildren over the last few years. Their mother is also 23. She became pregnant with her oldest when she was 15. She's a young single mother, unprepared for the full responsibility, so I have stepped in.
This is rare for me to log on on a friday night. StepTalk is usually my guilty pleasure at work, but tonight I ran straight to the computer. Here's what happened:
*This is SD's version of events.
SD11 was riding on the bus and a high school girl sitting beside her kept hitting her on the arm over and over. She told the bus driver, they "didn't do anything" and the girl kept on then she told the bus driver again and still nothing happend. Insted of getting up and switching seats, sitting by the bus drive, HELL sitting on the floor....SD HIT HER BACK.
Well I sat down and talked to DH this week and he agreed to a schedule so that I can be disengaged and both me and SD get enough of his time alone to be happy. He also began to understand why I need to be disengaged at this point. We had a very nice long talk without arguing (for one of the first times since we got SD full time in March) and I ended feeling very accomplished and with some hope. We start the new schedule on Monday. Wish me luck 
I have been with my partner for 5 years. His wife had died 12 months before I even met him. He swept me off my feet for the first 6 months then asked me to on a romantic holiday with him to Rome. I thought it was all too good to be true and yes you guesed it - it was all too good to be true.
We had previously moved into a new place, a new fresh start for him after losing his wife of 30 yrs+ there was nothing in this house except some furniture and a few basic necessities. We were going to go on our first holiday to Rome then come back and start to do the house up.
SGKs birthday party is tomorrow. I know most of you advised me against it. I am going to be TOO NICE. I went out and bought a nice cake, ice cream, ham and potato salad for dinner, a Princess chair and table set for the grandtwins, balloons, etc. DH had already bought presents so I didn't worry with that.
I am now enjoying a couple of beers whilst blowing up balloons. I am going to be the NICEST person in the world until my divorce papers are filed.
I advised my sis as to what's going on. Sis (age 57) and my mom (age 84) are coming over tomorrow. Sis knows the story.
Bless his heart, last night my BIL invited me to have lunch today with him, my MIL and ...SS. I love BIL & MIL, it's the ungracious SS I could do with out.. and have.. he hasn't stopped by to see his dad or me in over a month. (Ever since we told him he is not moving in here and had better not quit his job.) I Know BIL knows about the sitch because he and DH are very close. I also think that BIL is trying to be a peacekeeper. DH is out of town. Anyway, I accept and thank him for being so thoughtful, looking forward... see you tomorrow.
I do. Ok maybe not every single day, but every day on our weeks. (we have 50/50 week on/week off) BM is always there after school because she has another child that goes there, and of course she waits for SD to get out so she can see her. I totally understand that, I'd want to take every moment I could to see my child, but I just don't know how to deal with seeing her EVERYDAY! When we got along it was fine, we could stand there and chat, but right now I can't stand her and it drives me crazy having to play nice! I'm somewhat mad at DH because I have to see her everyday and he doesn't!
It's so terrible to wait and wait to see what's going to happen next with the BM. I feel like I'm sick of this roller coster ride. Why is it this lady has so much control just because she had his kids. I'm having his kid and I feel thrown to the side. I feel like we work around her and their kids and our whole life is on hold until their weekend or phone call. It's going to be like this forever and to tell the truth if I was smart and knew better I would have ran the other way! I don't know that it's worth it. Maybe I could've found a man that's just as perfect minus the DRAMA.
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