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OMG the nerve of BM

Zimka's picture

BM is going away for a week in September and in her wisdom she has decided the best person to look after all three of her children is BF1 (3 kids 3 different fathers) who has just turned up back in her life in the last 8 months and been completely absent from his daughter for 7years. Where as BF3 has been in all three of BM childrens life since the oldest was 18 months. We (BF3 and I) are not allowed SS 15 months over night during this time but we are allowed to spend time with SS at her place with BF1 and SS siblings. We pay our full child support every month and have not tried to reduce it (sometimes due to hard ship you can) BF1 pays no CS. BF3 and I offered to take holidays and spend the whole time with the kids as they all have weekly visitation with us currently. But in her BLOG she has bade BF1 out to be the saint of all saints and its like we don't exist, well only when it suits her!!!!!!!!!

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Most Evil's picture

I would try to document this with a judge that she is basically not allowing you visitation. Who wants to have to go sit at BM's house to see their child? What is her reasoning. This does not sound right.

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin

Zimka's picture

Her reasoning is that he needs to be around 'familar' people and surroundings. The fact SS spends minimum of 4 hours here every week does not make it familiar!!!! She doesn't think BF3 and I have SS best interest in mind by wanting him to stay with us.

TinaKay's picture

Paying child support does not mean you are garenteed child visitiation, more to this story me thinks...
seems some vital fact is missing in this story.

Zimka's picture

If so please don't comment on my blog. I DO NOT need your negative- ness! Thank you for respecting my wishes and have a nice day!

melis070179's picture

Zimka...you forgot the See You Next Tuesday! LOL

"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"

melis070179's picture

We all find that interesting!

"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"

Most Evil's picture

I am saying, is her 'reason' 'reasonable' - to a judge? Who would have more best interest than the other parent? I think she does need a reason and if you ever do go to court (which I know we haven't because lack of funds for travel, attorney, etc.) I think she would be SOL on this!!

Do you have any legal advisor you could ask?

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin

melis070179's picture

"SOL" = $hit Outta Luck! Wink

"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"

Zimka's picture

and I have kept a careful diary of all visitation and emails etc we have exchanged. Three weeks ago when she was fearing for her safty from BF2 she dropped SS and SS siblings off at our place at 430am and she left , we were the only place she felt the children would be safe...... but we are not 'familar' enough to look after SS while she has a weeks holiday out of the country....... ARGH

bewitched's picture

"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere

don't want you all thinking I'm totally dumb!

Angel37's picture

I hope you can get this to court and get parenting time set in stone. BM is very wrong on this one!

“Every truth has two sides; it is as well to look at both, before we commit ourselves to either”~Aesop