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Skids/BM- Are they SPs?

zerostepdrama's picture

Whose skid or BM is also a SP?

How is their relationship with their skids?

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zerostepdrama's picture

OSD has 2 SDs. She claims to love them as her own and doesn't understand why their mom keeps them from her DH. :? (uhhh probably because he's a drug addicted, abusive thief.) OSD often refers to them as "her daughters" even though she hasn't been around them that much. In the 4+ years she's been with her DH they have probably only spent maybe 7 days with them total.

MSD just had her second baby with second baby daddy. Second baby daddy already has a kid. My niece knows the first baby mama through mutual friends and mentioned to me that BM1 does not like MSD. So now that MSD has a kid with this guy... I'm sure it will be worse.

BM since she is still technically married- she has adult skids. They seem like really normal people. Their BM seems to be like a normal person too. Waaaaayyyy prettier then BM. I did some FB stalking one day and came across their pages. They look nice, dress nice, post nice things. I can only imagine what they think of trashy BM and the trashy skids.

BM's new boyfriend- looks to have younger kids. I am scared for those kids. I can only imagine how BM would be with them over time.

I find it ironic... OSD complains about her DH's ex and stuff she does and it's like spot on for stuff that her own BM does. I'm thinking- HELLO!!!

nengooseus's picture

BM is a SP. And horrible, from the sound of it.

They PA the BM in that case, just like they PA DH and me. She's poor, doesn't care for SK appropriately, doesn't celebrate holidays, has a freakish religion, etc. She is poor (She didn't take alimony in the divorce, but was very young when she married), but other than that, nothing is true. It's really gross to see and hear about. In fact, we've made it a point to have my skids visit with their Stepsister's BM so that they see how wrong their mother is.

Our BM is a horrible narcissist, she REALLY wants her SK to reject her mother and adore her (so that she can manipulate her, of course). SK is waaaay stronger than my Skids, so there really haven't been issues up to this point. She does try to buy the kid's love, which doesn't do anything, other than make my skids upset, so that's amusing.

In an ultimate stroke of irony/karma, BM also has a SK that she won't allow her husband to see. Seems that baby was conceived while she was dating her husband, so she wants nothing to do with it, and her husband is going along with it. He has to pay CS, but literally has not seen the child.

Salems Lot's picture

BM is a stepmom to 2 adults.
Her stepson still has a relationship with his dad but he was already on his own when his dad and BM got together.
Her SD on the other hand, hates them both and hasn't been around in many years. They did to her what they are doing to the skids(PASing, lying, deceiving and manipulating) she has rejected them for it BIG time.
I hope some day skids will realize the same.

hereiam's picture

My SD's on-again, off-again boyfriend has a daughter, who SD has never met. The BF doesn't pay CS or see the girl (I think she is about 7 or 8).

BM2 had 3 adult step daughters with her 4th marriage, they all ended up hating her. She's on her 6th marriage now and I don't believe he has kids.

BM2 was also step mother to DH's daughter from his first marriage. She called BM2 a bitch when she was about 6 years old. The girl definitely knew what she was talking about! Not that what she did was right, but...sometimes kids jut know.

Just J's picture

BM is a stepmom but her relationship with her SD is pretty nonexistent because her DH lost a move away custody case about 10 years ago. She lives several states away and she is grown now but only came for summers and holidays when she was a minor. I thought BM being a SM might make her less of a b-tch to DH but of course it was all double standards. His ex was horrible and wanted too much CS but my DH didn't pay enough and she was MOTY.

Tuff Noogies's picture

dumb@$$ is a sm technically. her and mister potato head are still legally married but have been split for four or five years. he had 50/50 of his two kids. i know they were still screwing around after she moved in with New D!@k, the boys were aware, not sure if his kids were or not.

not sure if the junkie she's with now has kids or not. i certainly hope not.

KittyKatMomma's picture

my stepkids BM is a SM who swears her stepkids love and adore her
when in fact neither can stand her because they can tell she's being fake as f@ck

Which is okay because my stepkids and their younger sister can't stand the SF.

both parents act like Parent of the Year and they are the ONLY parents to these 5 kids.
Shame the kids call them out on the BS and prefer the NCP & step parent every single time.

jmh302's picture

Bm is a sp. Her bf has 2 kids. From what i saw through fb, he was only with his 2 other kids mothers for a year each after the kid. Bm just had a baby by him so it will be interesting to see if he stays with her or moves on.

From sd it seems that the other kids are not there much. And the absolute only pics i have seen of the other kids are ones that feature sd. So no single shots or group photos of bm,her bf and the kids. There are however photos of her dogs daily.

Knowing bm, she probably does what i now currently do with sd in that i dont really do anything besides make dinner and do the laundry. She honestly is like that with sd unless she is dressing her up to show her off.

Maxwell09's picture

BM used to be a SP; it's said that he and Babydaddy2 ended it (every 6 weeks for two weeks) after two years because HE wouldn't parent his daughter. The daughter's mom told me BM was constantly blaming the girl for everything and never getting on to SS or the child she has with Babydaddy2, Spawn. I find it ironic BM thought he was a bad parent when she literally goes out of her way to make our life difficult when it comes to SS.

still learning's picture

SS26 has a bs3 who he and SDIL adore, and ss8 who they both obviously resent. I don't know if the kid acts out because his "parents" obviously don't like him, or they don't like him because of his bad behavior. They spank, yell and smack the kids hand at our house, who knows what they do to him in private. In my opinion, they are just at the edge of abuse but not enough to call CPS about. Anything bs3 does is sooo cute but ss8 is always in trouble. They recently drugged the kid for ADHD yet have done nothing to better their parenting.

As far as I know ss8's bio father is not in the picture and ss nor sdil have told DH or I why. It almost seems as if SDIL is hiding ss8 from something. She won't take them to public parks and is super picky about who watches him. High drama!!!

It's really sad to watch a beautiful young boy being ruined by those entrusted to raise him.

still learning's picture

Bio parents can be @$$es. SDIL had gs8 when she was 18, too young to be a parent these days IMHO. Her and ss26's resentment of the child is very clear.

Exjuliemccoy's picture

BM's H has a grown daughter with kids, but they are not close and she lives on the other side of the country.

OSD36's current husband brought four feral kids to their union. (He was the CP because their BM is a druggie). The boys were all challenging as teens, but OSD is a severe narcissist so it would not occur to her to compare her own experience as a SP to mine. She lacks a conscience or empathy.

lintini's picture

BM got herself knocked up by her SO, and he has 5 kids.
SS15 didn't even know she was still seeing him....

We aren't sure if they all are from the same mom, but karma has come to slap BM hard.

They haven't moved in all together yet but apparently they are in a few weeks. I wonder how many kids per room??

I wonder if BM will be making an appearance here on STalk.....akkkk!!

Monchichi's picture

BM found the unicorn, he is childless and 40. I dream that one day she ends up in a step situation as toxic as she has made mine.

Monchichi's picture

Fruit, he has been with her for 6 years actually. He's quite a nice guy when you meet him socially. Good earner, caring, loves both her boys very much, committed and is a united front with her no matter what.

The unicorn.

She isn't likely to cheat on him as he is her meal ticket. She's let herself go and he stays with her.

Acratopotes's picture

BM found herself a childless toyboy... she will never be SM.....

my hopes are on Aergia to be SM one day }:)

notsobad's picture

BMs SO has 2 kids, one SS adult in Uni, who she seems to get along with and one SD adult, who she seems to hate (and its mutual) according to my SD. Because BM likes one and hates the other so does SD, so we hear about some of the goings on.
BM has narcissistic tendencies so she'd never see any similarities between her as an SM and me.

SD is 27 so the chances of her meeting a guy with out kids keeps getting slimmer.