Not mentioning our anniversary to YSD on our actual anniversary day.

DH and I celebrated our 1 year anniversary yesterday

We had a very nice weekend. My cousin and his wife were in town for a wedding and staying at our house. It was nice to visit with them and also for them to spend time with DH as they have only met him 1 other time and there is a long story behind that. LOL.

DH got me a pair of diamond stud earrings. Very nice and very unexpected. I didnt even want to exchange gifts. Very much appreciated though. We went to dinner last night at a fancy smancy place and the food and drink was great.

Now here is my "complaint". Not really a complaint but more of a :? and Why????

Saturday night DH and I are watching a movie. YSD calls. DH answers and talks to her for a few minutes. I am half listening to the call.

Sunday (anniversary) I see that YSD texts DH asking if he is coming to her concert (choir???).

DH responds back with "No I have things to do today."

"things to do today"= anniversary dinner.

#1- Not sure why when she called on Saturday and asked for him to come, why he didnt just tell her- It's mine and Zero's anniversary and we are going out to dinner at that time.

#2- When she texted and asked if he was coming- instead of "I have things to do" he could have said "It's mine and Zero's anniversary and we are going out to dinner at that time."

The way my DH communicates I am not surprised by this AT ALL. He tries to give the easiest, quickest answer possible.

I feel for YSD in that she thinks her dad has "things to do" over coming to her concert. She would probably understand if he told her we were going to dinner.

A little part of me, feels like he wont bring up anything to the girl skids regarding our marriage. It's almost like he doesnt want to "remind" them he is married to me. LOL. Maybe not that extreme.

More so that he feels so "torn" between the sides. Worried that maybe YSD will be hurt that DH is doing something with me and not with her? :?

It's kind of hard to explain how it makes me feel. On one hand I do think that he doesnt communicate properly but I just feel when it comes to the girl skids and anything with me, he REALLY avoids it.

I dont like him feeling like he is in the middle of something. Even if he is the one at fault for it, I still cant imagine how he feels- caught in the middle of his kids and wife.

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I agree! I think he didn't

I agree! I think he didn't say it was a special day to avoid any drama or conflict. Not sure you're relationship status with the skid but if she had known it was a special "just the two of you day" would it have resulted in numerous text messages or phone calls? Or maybe if BM got wind of it, she would have been doing that? I want to believe he was protecting the enjoyment of his anniversary with you without outside drama from outside factors.

I can understand you feeling

I can understand you feeling that he should of just told her the exact reason. I think because it might seem like he's "hiding" your anniversary. You are excited and to a certain extent probably want to shout it from the rooftops. Men aren't like us and they don't think this way. I would take pleasure in knowing he did choose your anniversary dinner and spending time with you over SD's concert. A lot of the DHs on here wouldn't have. He also chose a really nice present.