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Things that have changed with adult skids.

Zenmode's picture

1. I'm no longer in group texts that include bio mom. In fact I'm no longer in group texts at all. Which suits me just fine. When I realized that there was no desire to form anything other than a superficial relationship I ceased sending any initiated by myself. They all soon followed with not including me. I consider this a Win and confirmation that my desire to have a meaningful connection with them was not reciprocated. Took me over 2 years to realize. 

2. Due to the adult skids refusal to respect my wish to not attend events which include the ex wife, I have been given cart blanc on not attending anything I don't feel compelled to. Including get togethers with or without the ex wife in attendance. 

3. DH has finally realized that the skids including their mother at every get together is in fact disrespectful to him and our marriage and has decided to notify the kids he will no longer be at anything she is included in, but that they are free to reach out to him for one on on or get togethers. The downside to this, but not a big deal is he's decided to host a once a month brunch for them at our house, which as stated I can either attend or not. I'm ok with this, I have a lot of places and people I can go visit should this occur. Chances are it will be as difficult to coordinate as it always is and won't last long, which was why I stepped out of that position 2 1/2 years ago. 

so that's where things are today. 



caninelover's picture

I would cringe if Bratty included me in group texts so best to let that die on the vine.

Good for your DH.

The brunches don't sound bad at all.  I'd be fine with that too.

Zenmode's picture

Not sure whether I'll be here for them if they actually happen more than once. I think for sure I'll be here for the first few just to establish that it's my home and I come and go as I please. I don't want them getting even a hint of me taking a back seat. 

caninelover's picture

They shouldn't be allowed to chase you out of your home.  But you're probably right -aftee one or two schedules will probably get in the way.

CrownJewels's picture

I can feel my bile rising over the mere thought of my husband being within a country mile of that woman. Group texts with SS and BM? I'd rather clean the toilet with my tongue, thanks.

I certainly hope your husband is doing ALL the cooking and cleaning for these brunches and not you!