OT. Uncle passed. Estranged from family.
This might make me sound like a horrible person. So, my toxic narcissist mothers brother passed away. Although I loved him when I was a child, I have not seen him or the majority of my biological family in nearly ten years, pretty much since the last funeral, for another uncle, I am close with that cousin. My mother is in her 80's I have had zero relationship with her for nearly 20 years. I found out t just last year that the name on my birth certificate for father wasn't the man who donated his material to my conception, so that big lie is hanging between my mother and I along with many other "family" secrets. I don't want to go. I'm not close to his daughter my other cousin either, even as children. Ugh. (Edited) more added)
I still haven't come to terms with the amount of lies and skeletons this family has perpetrated including my mother having a child (her 3rd) that I found out in my late 30's was put up for adoption. Faithfulness in marriage was NOT my moms strong suit apparently. Oh the cherry on top regarding the adoption.....the whole family knew. Aunts, uncles, cousins, she was adopted by one of the uncles best friend and his wife. When I found out (from a cousin) I reached out trying to find her, called aunts and was stonewalled. No one would break the wall of silence around it, they protected my mothers secret. My sister died in 2016 after losing her adoptive parents fairly young age 12 mom (cancer) and 23 dad (unknown) without ever knowing that there was family that would have embraced her. I. Just. can't with these people.