Did any of you tell the SO that you’d rather not?
Be around the SKs? I'm not really sure whether I should just say, by all means go, spend time with them, build YOUR relationship with them and the gkids, but I'll pass.
I did tell him that I am less and less inclined to organize or reach out on my own as I have in the past because apparently it makes no difference since there are all these "feelings" about "family" right now, what I didn't say was, in fact I'm totally done doing that, no more girls nights at my initiation no more Xmas cookie making or organized Xmas outings or impromptu dinner invites initiated by me.
Now, how do I support DH yet absent myself from when he wants to engage with his kids? For the record he is totally fine when I have, but for the most part those have been away from our house events. I refuse to play hostess any more so for those of you who have gone through disengagement how did you handle that aspect?