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Grown Ss def has issues with me.

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If you read through my previous blogs, other than my frustration with most of them in general with their non engagement and some entitled behaviors, the running theme through them is OSS causing issues throughout the years. DH accidentally let it slip that he has issues with me and that it upsets DH because I'm so amazing (his words LOL) bless his heart, but this came as no surprise, OSS has not hidden it as well as he thinks, for over five years.
 

Did any of you tell the SO that you’d rather not?

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Be around the SKs? I'm not really sure whether I should just say, by all means go, spend time with them, build YOUR relationship with them and the gkids, but I'll pass.

I did tell him that I am less and less inclined to organize or reach out on my own as I have in the past because apparently it makes no difference since there are all these "feelings" about "family" right now,  what I didn't say was, in fact I'm totally done doing that, no more girls nights at my initiation no more Xmas cookie making or organized Xmas outings or impromptu dinner invites initiated by me. 
 

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Adult step kids still attempting guilt over divorce. 30 years later.

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It's been 30 years. 5 since I came into his life. Little things get said about his "availability" when they want to engage. Yet from what I've seen he is very much an afterthought in their lives but they act like he should drop everything for them when they are available. The kicker is, they really don't reach out much on their own. Most live within 10 miles of us. One SD is on a whole "healing journey" and considers herself a "facilitator" and insists on dragging us along.

The coffee date that just never happened.

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(Left a comment in a post about this, so now here is a blog!) I've said before that my SKs are pretty much a lot of talk and postering about "family" but strangely their dad and I get left out of the publicity blitz on socials, because....well who knows other than it's all for show and we don't roll that way. Things get said a lot like "let's get together and do..........insert event that unless I or their dad plans doesn't happen, so one of those is "let's do coffee" and I thought why not? DH is working from home, it'll be nice for everyone.

Giving tree, the rainbow fish and Love you forever alternate endings.

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Shel Silverstens enabling, martyr-ish codependent book and two others that teach about "selflessness" have had alternate endings with boundaries written for them. These are so much healthier. I loved this and thought I'd share. 
https://www.topherpayne.com/fixed-it?fbclid=IwAR0AaGXa9qgWioxINe2cdPCHnf...

 

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Update to “HELP!”

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Well, got through the birthday party last night. Narc-hole Ss didn't say one word to me. Not hello, not goodbye, nothing. S-daughter in law said hello and goodbye, when she said goodbye I leaned in (wearing my mask) and said we need to have a talk, she readily ageed.

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