SKs finally seeing "the truth"
Does this ever happen?
I have a coworker who knows a bit about my situation, and he told me about two of his adult kids who refuse to see/speak to him because of PAS from their mother growing up. He didn't tell me ages or specifics about their situation, just that they are both adults and that he hasn't seen or spoken to either of them in years.
DH on the other hand, has a coworker who moved in with his dad when he was 12 because of PAS from his mom. He told DH that he started to "see the truth" and began to realize that his mother was lying to him about his father and that HE asked his dad if he could move in and his dad pushed custody. He says he still has a relationship with his mother but isn't particularly close with her.
In our current situation, if things stay the course, I see us ending up as my coworker. SS is 11, so to me that means that he is old enough to not believe BM or her family blindly in whatever they have been telling him about DH. DH of course thinks the exact opposite, that SS will eventually want to live with us because I guess one day he will just wake up, have an epiphany, and realize BM and her family are liars.
I guess I'm just wondering about people here, how much do kids believe and do they ever actually have that epiphany where they realize what's going on?
Let me just make a note that for the most part, even though we have had issues with BM through the years, SS has been a good kid, we (especially DH) have a good relationship with him and the PASing is really a result of DH contesting the CS increase she is requesting and we THINK that once things settle down again, she'll stop messing with SS (although I don't really anticipate that to be the case for another year or so).