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My SS(19) graduates from basic training in December. My husband and I are going to the graduation. We were not sure if BM and her BF were going but just confirmed they are. So we are all going to be in a different state, attending the same event. SS will be free on a 2 week break after graduation. My DH is implying that there may be a chance we all go out to dinner together (with the SS). I told him there is no way in HELL I would sit at a table and make nice with that horrible woman. My DH got upset.

I could just punch her....

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My oldest SS19 leaves for basic training on Sunday. My husband has had his boys SS19 and SS15 with him for the last 3 weeks. He's been taking trips with them, trying to spend as much quality time with my SS19 before he leaves. We usually have them EOW, but we always have them more because BM cant be bothered with being a mom. The guys got back from their last trip yesterday. I was expecting them to go to Bm's house until Friday and then they would have come back to us for "our week". Technically this was her week, but she never minds less time with her kids.

Just sad...

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BM hasn’t seen her kids in 2 weeks. She dropped off SS14’s backpack that we bought him on Tuesday because Wednesday was the first day of school. She complained to my DH about having to drop it off, she lives 5 min away. So the kids are upstairs when she drops it off. She doesn’t even ask how they are or ask to see them. No hug, no I miss you, no I hope you have a good 1st day of school… nothing. Just drops it off and bails. What a B ! I pick up my YSS on his 1st day and he is going on and on about what a great day he had.

What would you do?

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I have a question for all of you. Recently me SS’s (13&17) have become more and more vocal about the “neglect” that goes on over at BM’s. We have week on week off custody. Basically she is never home, is always going out with her live in boyfriend. My youngest SS came home last week and just started spilling. He said that he spends more time with his aunt than his own mom. She works, gets home, her and her boyfriend go out leaving the kids home alone (they belong to a “workout club” and do this 5 nights a week). They never take them anywhere at all, really… like never.

Full Circle Fuc*ery

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My DH has been struggling with things that my SS’s are telling him that go on over at the BM’s house. Basically she’s a crappy mother, has never really cared or disciplined the kids in any way. According to my SS’s she is NEVER home. Leads a very active carefree life with her now BF while the kids stay at home and do nothing. My DH used to try and co-parent with her when the kids were little but she wouldn’t have any of it. In fact she used to deliberately undermine when my husband was trying to discipline the boys. Example: One of the boys was getting an F in a class.

Can't you just be happy for MY kid for once?

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My BS16 has an interview today, he told me last night when I got home from work. He has been trying really hard to find a job. When my DH got home I was so excited to tell him about it.

This was the conversation.

ME: "DH, BS16 has an interview tomorrow! I hope he gets the job!"
DH: "Maybe he can get SS17 an interview."

.... That was it. Gee, thanks DH. He cannot be genuinely happy for my kids. It always loops back around to his kids in some way.

Every Weekend?

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Lately it seems like every weekend that the skids are supposed to be with their BM (week on week off custody) my DH has some reason to bring them over. The weekend before was MY brother’s birthday and they were all going to the beach, we had them this past weekend and next weekend my DH got tickets to go to an amusement park that are only good for that day. This has been happening a lot over the past few months, these are just a few examples. I’m going to sound like a total bitch right now, but I’m so tired of him always picking up the slack for their craptastic mother.

Why are my feelings ignored?!

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Very annoyed right now. My DH has been planning a trip with this friends for quite some time now. There is about 8 of them going so they had to coordinate schedules. I have no problem with him going on this trip. My ONLY request to him was that it was on a week that we don’t have all 4 kids. (We have my 2 SSs every other week, Friday-Friday) He has been talking about the trip for a while and every time he brings it up I remind him not to leave me here with all 4. I’m already overwhelmed on the weeks they are here even with my DH around.

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Socks. That’s what we’re talking about here people. Socks. My Bio son (16) has these “name brand” socks. They have whatever logo on them and they cost about $15 a pair. He got them as gifts or buys them himself. With 4 teenage boys in the house I don’t put socks in drawers, I have a laundry basket on top of the dryer that I keep all of the matched socks in. The “special” socks do not go in there, my son keeps them in his room that he shares w SS17. Well SS17 has been wearing them. My son has repeatedly asked him not to.

Unbelievable!

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So mad it could spit! After 16 years of supporting my bios on my own, I finally decided to file for child support. I have always worked full time and made enough to support my kids. My ex has NEVER helped financially with them. I applied for support through the local CSS office. We have no custody arrangement. My ex doesn’t work and if he does, it’s under the table. Long story short, I received my judgment in the mail and my ex has to pay a whopping $115 a month TOTAL in child support. I am dumbfounded. His I&E says that he makes less than $600 a month.

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