PS: I ain't your bro
BM's ex husband is begging DH to testify against her in court. He sent a message late last night asking him to please testify against her. He is sucking up telling him he is such a great dad and brother to him. The thing is this guy cannot be trusted and has proven that. He knows more about SD's whereabouts and sees her often but has told DH a different story and he has no idea what she is doing. He would pretend to help DH back when he was desperate to contact SD then turn around and fill BM in hoping to get her back.
DH never responded last night. This morning DH gets several hey bro, please bro texts asking him to come in to testify. Dh has to work first of all and secondly he said he is done with the whole mess. He doesn't want to try and pursue a relationship with SD and sees that she is just like BM. He doesn't want to be involved with a custody case that doesn't concern him. SD is happily living her life bouncing around from relative to relative when the rules get too much for her. This guy plays dirty and forgets all the crap he has done to DH and expects him to come to his rescue. BM and her ex have their hearing in a few minutes and the please bro, you're my bro texts are pouring in fast.
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Your DH needs to block his
Your DH needs to block his non-bro.
We never asked them to
We never asked them to testify or anything but we did hit up the other baby daddy's for info. Dh did some apologizing for not realizing what BM did to them and for believing that they were abusers.
He never got in the way or anything so there were no hard feelings from them when it came to the court cases, but he still felt like he could have kept BM in check back then.
All I am saying is that I know the level of desperation that this guy is feeling and he knows that the end result will likely be what yours is and ours is: A lost kid. And that is heartbreaking for him.
Just let him down gently that you understand all of his emotions but you aren't opening that Pandora's box of hell again.
He has his kids though. She
He has his kids though. She dropped them off and never came back for them. He doesn't pay childsupport to her and she doesn't ask to see them. He opened up the box dragging her back to court for sole legal and physical custody. She lawyered up with one of the best (and expensive) lawyers in town ( no clue how she pulled that off). He's had all his children full time since April.
Ahhhh... yeah. "Sorry dude, I
Ahhhh... yeah. "Sorry dude, I ain't your bro" is the correct response.
Tell him clearly: "Hey Bro,
Tell him clearly: "Hey Bro, you withheld information from me when BM ran off with my kid and refused to let me see her, so if you think I'm helping you, you have lost your mind. Stop contacting me, bro, or I'll file harassment charges."
^^^This^^^
He needs to know exactly why your DH won't be helping him.
I would ignore and block him.
I would ignore and block him.
Ignore, no explanation needed
Ignore, no explanation needed (or deserved).
I agree. There is no way this
I agree. There is no way this might benefit your DH & several ways it could bite him in the ass.
This is a tough one.
I'm one of those people who find it disturbing that people don't do more for each other. Like for example people who know from personal dealings that a certain frat boy is a rapist but don't report him or warn others because he "didn't do anything to them personally." I'd go so far as to say that is why our society is running amok.
In our case, it was very clear who the good guys and bad guys were in our dispute with Satan. But we had a lot of people who weren't willing to get involved, and I felt really betrayed by them. We still won, but the apathy from people who were supposed to be friends and family left a scar I will never forgive.
Mealticket wasn't a friend or family, but he was a firsthand witness to the things Satan was doing. He was living with her at the time and took her side, because of his own personal financial and custody struggles, but even though he didn't participate in the exploits directly, I did judge him harshly for enabling her.
However. Now Satan and Mealticket have split. They didn't have any children together, but if they did...
DH and I would be morally obligated to attest to the facts that we are aware of to support Mealticket's custody of HypotheticalChild, because Satan is an absolute sh!tshow and Mealticket is not a malicious, bad person, just stupid and weak. And any child would be better of with Mealticket than with Satan.
If Mealticket was as big of a sh!tshow as Satan, it would be a draw and we wouldn't get involved.
Disengage
Disengage from all this drama, you will be the bad guys in the end.
politely remind bro that he
politely remind bro that he wasn't up front with you and that means you won't be involved in his mess. then block him.
I'd stay out of it
I'd stay way out of it.
My husband’s exwife few yrs ago claimed her marriage
To her affair guy was doomed (actually had sd23 tell hubby this- not that he cared).
What affair hubby doesn't realise is his wife is hiding money from him while screwing him over so in event of a divorce she can claim innocent victim. She also had eldest sd demand hubby hand over assets/property he bought with his own money post divorce to their kids as she didn't want it in her name or her husband could claim half in a divorce. She actually is dumb enough to think my husband wants to help her out for the sake of her kids (bahahaha)
karma is a bitch, people deserve what they dish out to others.
A friend and former colleague
A friend and former colleague of mine was contacted by an XBF of his XW. She broke up with the XBF and he called my friend to fill him in on all of the crap the XW was doing and the lies and manipulations she had pulled in court to nail my friend for increased CS when he had been way over paying for years because he wanted his son to have a quality life.
Long story shorter, the XBF provided my friend with a sworn deposition, in front of my friends attorney, on all of the XW's crap. The irony is this guy ended up marrying the XW and has begged for years to have the deposition destroyed. Nope, my friend used it a number of times when battling his XW to motivate the XBF/then DH to get his wife to knock off her shit.
I have always appreciated how well my friend played that whole thing.
As for "bro" and "dude". My younger brother went through a phase of calling me "dude" and "bro". I never tolerated it and let him know emphatically that I was neither his dude nor his bro. He knew my name, I told him to use it.
If I were your DH, I would have "bro" put every sordid detail of BM's shit in a deposition then I would happily testify. If BM is that bad, why not partner to put her in her place? Though I certainly understand that this guy has flipped the script after being a dumb ass for years.