Parenting Question: How Do You Punish A Teenager For Lying?
At the beginning of March, SS14 got a Nintendo Switch for his birthday. I didn't really agree with the gift given how expensive it was, him recently smashing his Iphone and then dropping the new one in the toilet (it worked for a while but apparently died yesterday), and it was just another electronic device to feed his addiction. Oh well, BM got it for him and we bought two games ($135).
After Spring Break, he stopped bringing it over. I thought it was odd and asked him if he was still playing it. He told me he was. I asked him to bring it next time they came so we could set it up in the living room (It's a handheld system that can be plugged into the TV and play like a console). He told me ok. A month and a half passes and he still hadn't brought it over.
This past weekend we were eating dinner and I brought it up again. At this point, I had a feeling something had happened to it but I didn't know for sure. I again asked him to bring it so we could all play together. He started getting pissy with me and explaining he didn't have the gear to hook it up to the TV. I told him he did, as it came with it. He then said it only came with one controller, and I reminded him that the device comes apart and naturally has two controllers. He then said he didn't have a two player game, and SD11 corrected him and said he had Mario Cart which was two player. His attitude was pretty crappy through this, and he questioned me on why I wanted to play it. I've been a gamer for 20 years, hadn't had the chance to check out the system, and we all regularly play Wii together and a game night might be fun.
When my BF called me yesterday to tell me SS's phone had died, I asked him to inquire about the Switch with BM.
Low and behold, he broke it a while back at camp. I find it odd that BM didn't even mention it to BF, but whatever. I also think SD knew he broke it, so I find it odd she wouldn't say anything consider she will tattle about everything else.
Either way, stuff happens. Give children expensive electronics and they will undoubtedly break them. Mistakes will happen.
My problem is his LYING. I don't appreciate being lied to, and he lied over the course of a few months. I don't quite understand it considering we didn't buy it for him, but I guess I'm going to chalk it up to him being a textbook teenager now.
I don't tolerate lying from the kids, and neither does BF. How do we handle it? How do you punish lying? If it was a little white lie (like not brushing his teeth), it would be easier, but I consider this quite a big lie.
What would you guys do? How do you teach children not to lie?