Whose DH wished the BM a Happy Mother's Day?
Mine did. Just happened to see a text from him to her- "Happy Mother's Day". Her response was three huge hearts.
A few weeks ago he mentioned that his therapist said he was letting BM cross boundaries by letting her tell him about her relationship problems at home between SD and BM's hubby.
So, I said this mother's day exchange with BM was another boundary crossing. He said he thought what he did was normal, that her response was inappropriate. I tried to explain that he invited her to respond in the first place by texting her.
My ex husband didn't text me happy mother's day...I guess maybe because he has a new wife and is not worried about my mother's day even though, gasp....I am the sacred, "Mother of His Child", right?
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My SO wished his ex a happy
My SO wished his ex a happy mother's day when she came by to pick up the kids this morning. They're friendly and appreciate each other as parents, so I would have expected nothing less.
I got one card
...in the mail Friday from a dear old friend & business mentor. I cried when I read it because someone important to me is proud of me & appreciates what I'm doing.
No card, anything from DH or SS18, beyond SS hitting me up for a ride earlier tonight (he texted & called). I gave his requests the same priority he gave Mothers Day (ignored), and did the "Not my circus, not my monkey" happy-dance with a glass of red wine. SS magically showed up anyway a little bit later.
Pretty non-plussed about SM appreciation levels in 2018. What-the-eff-Ever. Tomorrow is another day, and one day closer to liberation.
MY ex wished me (as the BM of
MY ex wished me (as the BM of his kids) a Happy Mother's Day over text, which I thought was a little weird, but I said thank-you. My kids spent the day with me and gave me cards and candy, and we went out to eat dinner. It was really nice. Crickets from the soon-to-be-ex skids.
In the UK (and Europe I
In the UK (and Europe I believe), Mother's Day is in March. DH and SS15 did give me a card and a few small presents. SS15 doesn't participate in any hate that BM2 has tried to make him believe over the years. Probably the one and only bonus of him being on the spectrum. Mind games are too complicated and simply do not compute.
DH made sure SS15 called BM2 to wish her a happy mother's day. Whether DH text her or not, I have no idea. Either way she still tries to desperately get back with DH so it doesn't make one bit of difference. FIL is ill so she knows DH will inherit £££££ which is all that rules BM2's world.
My exH wished me a Happy Mother's Day yesterday (I am an American living in England) while I was talking to my BS17. However, we have a successful co-parenting relationship. Neither one of us crosses boundaries or plays games so it doesn't mean anything other than what it means and no one takes anything out of context.
HCBM's are a different story though. Very strict and consistent boundaries need to be in place. Your DH probably should have made the skid call her if he has them with him. Otherwise, radio silence. Simply because it was clear she took that text way out of context and will read far more into than it simply just being a courteous message.
The joys of psycho BM's...
BM acted like DH wished her a
BM acted like DH wished her a happy Mother's Day when in fact he was telling SS11 (as SS was walking up the driveway to BM) to have a happy day tomorrow and the wench screamed "yeah I worked all day-let me tell ya real fun especially when none of my children wanna spend it with me!"
he told her to quit her bitching and enjoy whatever time she gets-she huffed off.
Her kids are
SD19
DD17
SS17
DS11
DD10
and in the 11yrs I've been with DH-she's always allowed the children to spend the day however THEY wanted. And if SD17 and SS11 chose to spend it with me and Dad and her Youngest with HER dad-she'd get all butt hurt but never forced the issues
No, my DH does not
No, my DH does not acknowledge BM on Mother's Day. Or any other day.
My ex does not but the kids
My ex does not but the kids are aged out, they don't like each other and they haven't talked in years.
My ex did text me Happy Mother's Day and I just replied Thank you. We get along so I appreciate the gesture.
I think your DH's ex texting back hearts is a little much and I would be pissed too. He was probably just trying to do the "right thing". He can't control what she texts back.
No, DH does not wish the cow
No, DH does not wish the cow happy Mother’s Day. He never wanted that thing to have his children, he certainly wouldn’t celebrate that fact. Yes, well aware that sex can = children, but this nut bag confessed to tricking DH because she wanted his babies (DH was an alcoholic, so well aware his decision making sucked at the time). He regrets having kids with that thing every time he thinks about it.
I don't think SO wished BM a
I don't think SO wished BM a happy Mother's day, they're not on good terms.
But he did wish his Ex's mother a happy mother's day, which I found slightly weird, but they still get along well and sometimes still see each other.
No. My DH did not wish BM a
No. My DH did not wish BM a happy Mother’s Day. Pretty sure he’d rather gouge his eyeballs out.
My ex husband didn’t text me a Happy Mother’s Day either. And I wouldn’t expect him to, because...
I’m not his mother.
Totally uncalled for. He crossed a boundary, in my opinion.
I would NOT be okay with SO
I would NOT be okay with SO wishing BM a Happy Mother's Day. She is somewhat high conflict and has behaved inappropriately in the past. Therefore, all communication is to be about SD and SD ONLY. No small talk, no jokes, no cutesy emojis, nothing.
I would definitely agree that your DH crossed a line. Yes, BM's response was inappropriate, but your DH invited her response by texting her in the first place.
Yes, hubby just told her
Yes, hubby just told her Happy MD. BM responded along the lines of "thanks I know how hard today is for you and your mom would be so proud of you". He said that he appreciated that. His mom passed almost 11 years ago and MD is emotionally rough on him. However, I hate the witch and don't think he needs BM's "sentiments" with her grimy, whoring, smoker's voice, narc ass!