You are here

UGH! I cant stand BM

wishing upon a star's picture

Crap! BM is asking for more child support, Okay I know that she is entitled to but c'mon we just moved in to a new home. Its been 9 mos. I even had to get rid of my car so we can live comfortable. We have a big back yard with a swing set and a trampoline. My daughter 16 has her own room and my SD 10&8 share a room together.
Not like before where they had to sleep in the living area due to a family member having to move in and taking over their room. Gosh and now this.... maybe if she would stop shopping at Victoria Secret to buy panties and bras, black berry cel phone, waxing her legs for SD10 (a little to young for that) I think... Not even my daughter16 has VS panties .... Oh but BM told Hubby that she has been looking at SD10 text msg and reads sexual comment. She is only 10 years old...UGH!!!!! But thats a another story. SD10 has been wanting to take dancing lessons, spend your CS money on that... Oh well I just needed to vent. I guess I can start counting backwards 10,000.00, 9,999.99, 9,999.98 LMAO!

Comments

stepmom2one's picture

I know how you feel--our CS went up $80 becuz of H overtime. Then a year later he gets no overtime and no raises--so that leaves us paying over 20% of his income to CS instead of the mandatory 17%. It sucks.

Pantera's picture

Ive been on both ends of CS with DH. It sucks that you have to pay someone that doesn't spend CS right, and it sucks when the NCP doesn't pay like they are supposed to.

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus

wishing upon a star's picture

I would understand if she did not work but she has a better paying job than I do and her husband works to jobs, probable to stay away from home LOL! Anyways I know she doesnt need it Oh and I hate it when she sends hubby a text saying " the more the merrier". Yes she is evil. The CS she receive is plenty. Now she is wanting $100.00's more. The sad part She probable will ....

~Life's a Journey-So take a deep breath and enjoy the ride~

belleboudeuse's picture

Unfortunately, it seems like a noticeable change in your lifestyle (buying a house, for example) will trigger a request for more CS from a CP who feels entitled to anything the NCP makes. It doesn't seem to occur to them (as in our case) that the extra money is coming from the paycheck of the NCP's SPOUSE, not some amazing raise or bonus that the NCP has received. Our BM complains all the time about how poor she is, and implies that my DH is more interested in going on vacations with me than providing for his daughters. But you know what? My DH is in the red at the end of every month. The reason he is even able to send her the CS checks is because I pay the bills he can't. Any extras that we have come from my paycheck. And yet, she sees every "fun" thing we do as evidence that he should be paying her more money.

Frankly, she should be kissing my a**, because if it wasn't for me, he'd have filed for bankruptcy by now, and would be way behind on his CS. It's because of me that she's still getting the full amount, on time, every month. I even write out the GD checks for him to sign.

BB

You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. - 2BLoved

stepmom2one's picture

yep 2 months after CS raised we moved into a home with 3 bedrooms instead of 2 (since we had a son of our own). BM called 2 wks after we moved in and asked for more money! DH said they just gave you an increase--you don;t get anymore than 17% that is it! I don't have anymore to give you--I have a family to support to.

Of course she bought a new house BEFORE CS was raised but still expected more money from us--basically we only paid 90% of her house payment--I guess she expected my DH to pay the whole thing.

belleboudeuse's picture

Funny (as in "sick") story:

My DH has two daughters. The younger one was adopted from an orphanage abroad, and has lots of behavioral issues. BM asked for, and got, full physical custody of the two children. About a year after their divorce, she decided she couldn't deal with the adopted daughter anymore, and sent her to a group home (with DH's consent, as he wanted to do whatever possible for YSD to get better).

Anyway. So she sends YSD to a group home, but continues to collect CS for her from my DH. Eventually, (almost a year later) the county catches on that he is paying child support, and sends him a letter saying that he is to begin paying the amount of his CS for the YSD to the county instead of to BM. BM, of course, is completely furious. When DH, as a courtesy, tells her that he has to start paying CS for YSD to the county, BM tells him that he needs to ALSO continue to pay HER CS as well. So, she actually expects DH to pay CS for YSD TWICE! Once to the county, and once to BM. Her reasoning? "Well, my mortgage hasn't gone down just because YSD doesn't live with me."
:jawdrop:

Seriously. How clueless can she be? Needless to say, that did not happen. But BM actually had the gall to consult a lawyer to see if she could force DH to pay double CS for YSD. Unreal...

BB

You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. - 2BLoved

wishing upon a star's picture

Why are some BM so mean? I don't understand, I have a 16 year old daughter and never bothered her father. We separated when she was three and two weeks later a cousin of mine was at the local mall and saw her father there with a pregnant girl wow! and I never looked back. I recieve the same amount of CS for the last 13 years and without medical support. I am owed $20K in back pay and it has never crossed my mind to be so mean after he bought a new home and had a baby. For what? he is living his own life and I have mine.

~Life's a Journey-So take a deep breath and enjoy the ride~