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He's sending her money...AGAIN...and he is broke now until pay day

Wishes's picture

Found that my S.O. is once again sending SD25, MARRIED WITH 3 CHILDREN, money. All this after his b.s. speech as to how he'll never send her money again and she'll never ask for it now that she's married. Yeah, sure, tell me another story. I am going to :sick:

I wonder how much the emotional blackmail cost him this time. :jawdrop: :? :O Sad

Moreover, I can't believe the SD husband allows her to ask her father for money. How does he not feel like a complete loser?

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Wishes's picture

At least your SD's work and have gone to school. Mine has worked MAYBE 6 months in her entire LIFE, starting the 6 months before she got pregnant at 19. Then she quit and has been at home having child after child since then.

I'm beyond frustrated and I'm really, really angry w/S.O. This is a co-dependent nightmare I'm living in between these two. He parents w/guilt, enables her manipulative, entitled behavior and kisses her *ss every chance he gets.

:sick:

Wishes's picture

No she 'can't' work. She uses the excuse that she has 3 children and therefore can't afford to put them in day care. Believe me, she has manipulated everyone into taking care of her. I'm extraordinarily disappointed and disgusted that her father continues to enable it. Her I have re-disconnected from. But I have to live with her father so I can't really disengage from him. *sigh* I dunno, maybe she's onto something. Maybe I should follow her lead and see just how much money I can get my S.O. to spend on/give me...perhaps demanding a monthly stipen from now on. Hmmm.....(yes, maybe it's time I started acting the entitled brat. Doesn't seem like it would be much of a struggle to get my S.O. to comply.

buttercookie's picture

My daughter pulled this "we don't have food, we're starving bit" I didn't give her money, I offered to take her to the grocery store. She ended up having plenty of food without the trip to the store. I was willing to help if she needed it but I called her bluff. I think it's part crappy parenting but it's also this generation. The difference is how you handle it.

mom2five's picture

My college-aged child gives me the whole "I have no money for food" crap. He is on a full scholarship. He gets tuition, room and board, meals, and almost $800 in extra money to play with every month. Yet he still manages to be broke half the time. I have no doubt that the extra money we send him supplies beer for his fraternity.

I stopped sending money and started sending grocery cards. At least that way I know he isn't hungry.

Ssamantha's picture

My thoughts exactly. He's on his own...because if you bail him out, it's almost the same as giving her the money yourself. You shouldn't have to pay for his enabling behavior.

Wishes's picture

I believe I inadvertantly found out last night why my S.O. sent that $ to SD.

He & I were having a truly light-hearted discussion about working and I jokingly said something like "Well if you earned more $ I wouldn't have to work". Wink

He said "Hey I earn pretty decent money".

I said "Then how come I have to work"? }:)

Him: "Everyone has to work".

Me: "Oh...really? Really? EVERYONE does"? :jawdrop:

Him: *somewhat long pause* "Groceries...If you don't want to have to wonder how you're going to pay for groceries to feed your family, then you need to work".

I sensed a bit of irritation &/or resentment in his voice (and he wouldn't look at me).

I just said "Ohhh...I see". :sick:

I'm pretty sure that was his way of telling me he was referring to SD there, w/out actually saying it. Yeah, just keep enabling it dear, that'll teach her. :?

See where he went wrong was in sending her a check. Should have went out and got a gift card for the grocery store.

Yeah, so much for "now that she's married she'll never ask me for $ again". Right, who's fooling who here my dear? Sad

And how about the loser SD husband...he keeps making kids but can't put food on the table. Oh what a lovely, lovely white trashy nightmare we have here.

*SIGH*