Thing2's graduation and other tales from the weekend
Well, I didn't see Asshat or Money-Ka the whole weekend, so WIN WIN!! Thing2's ceremony was great, he was recognized for winning an award for his research paper and the weather was great!!!
My mother was her usual bitchy passive aggressive self and just about made me lose it. Here is but one example-
DH and I got to the hotel around 5pm. We checked in and I got a text from my step mom letting me know that she and my dad had made it and that they were headed down to the bar to watch the Kentucky Oaks coverage. Cool. DH and I unpacked a little bit and then headed down to the bar around 5:30 or so. Dinner was at 6:30.
At 6:01, I get a text from my mom "Thing1 and I are here. Are u in ur room?" (yes, my 73 year old mom uses that stupid text language instead of actual words) I replied "nope, we are down in the bar with Dad and SM." Approximately 4 minutes later, she and Thing1 appear in the bar, they take seats at the opposite end (away from my dad and SM and me, which is totally cool, I get it) and each order a drink.
Sounds fine, right? NOPE!!! She later complained to my husband that she felt excluded because I didn't invite her to come join us at the bar. UH - SHE APPEARED AT THE BAR RIGHT AFTER I TEXTED HER THAT WE WERE IN THE BAR!! When my husband asked her why she felt that way because she clearly came down to the bar, she said that "it would have been nice to be invited." Uh - since we were all on the 7th floor of the hotel and it took her less than 5 minutes to get my text and then appear in the bar, WHAT????
She spent the rest of the weekend complaining that my dad and SM were at the dinner, in the same hotel (the hotel was on campus, within walking distance to the ceremony AND contained the restaurant where we had dinner, so yeah, I booked all the rooms there), at the ceremony and on and on and on. She even complained that I drove my dad home so that my SM could leave the ceremony in the morning and make a bridal shower in the afternoon. Ugh.....
Then there was DH - who got all red faced ANY TIME anyone congratulated my on getting all three of my kids out of college and successfully launched. EVERY TIME he would say "nope, you have three more" and EVERY TIME I would say, "um, nope."
Yesterday was our anniversary and we talked a little bit about why he said that and why I reacted the way I did. He said that he didn't like it when I didn't refer to the skids as mine. I told him that I have never done that and even if we all DID get along, they ARE NOT MY KIDS!! He said he understood that, but it hurt his feelings. I told him that I wasn't trying to hurt his feelings, but was only being factual. Another ugh....I did tell him that I might feel differently if he had allowed me to "parent" them in our home, but he doesn't, so I don't.
Finally, an ASS update. DH went from Thing2's university up to ASSState to collect ASS from the dorm and deliver him to DH's parents. College has taught ASS the following things -
DH was right that college is important.
DH was right that learning to drive was a necessity.
DH was right that one of the best things about college was the networking with like-minded kids.
All of this made DH feel great, which was awesome
And, thus concludes the update