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Submitted by WalkOnBy on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 10:41am

Forgot to tell you all this little gem...

So, in light of the "I can't submit to your authority, Dad" comment ASS made a few weeks back, I have been talking to DH about changing up the launch date for ASS. I mean, if he DOES things that will actively aid him in his launch, I am all for letting him stay until September 1 (as previously agreed). However, it is clear that ASS WON'T be doing anything proactive, so why should we let him stay?

The whole point of him staying was so that he could spend the next 4 and half months working, saving money, planning for his launch. Seems like that's not going to happen now because that would be "submitting" to DH's authority, so why should we allow him to stay if he's not going to hold up his end of the bargain?

Oh, that's right. We shouldn't. But, last night DH said "he WILL be allowed to stay until September 1" when we were discussing this issue with Therapist.

I still maintain that he takes off as soon as graduation is over, so here's hoping I am right.....

Rant over.

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WalkOnBy's picture

Submitted by WalkOnBy on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 11:11am

You know, tommar, this is probably spot on....

I will bite holes in my tongue and just bear it, I suppose.

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Submitted by WalkOnBy on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 11:32am

I know, I know. And I really do think he will leave once he graduates.

Besides, the kid is a freaking ghost, anyway. I hardly see him and I NEVER speak to him.

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Submitted by misSTEP on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 11:13am

So what if you grin and bear it and then when that deadline is looming, he decides on some OTHER arbitrary timeline to extend it to??

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Submitted by WalkOnBy on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 12:42pm

DH asked if I would let ASS stay through the summer so that he could get his ASS in gear. I said ok, because I really don't care anymore what ASS does.

It's not like ASS said "oh hey, if you let me live here til fall I will work my ASS off and save my money so that I can move out" and the reneged on the deal.

There never was a deal. There was only discussion between me and DH.

Meh - it's really no skin off my nose if ASS stays. Like I said, I have less than zero interaction with him and on the off chance that our paths cross in the kitchen or the pantry, he turns tail and runs away like a wuss.

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Submitted by AlreadyGone on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 12:49pm

I'm still ROFLMAO @ the whole 'I can't submit to your authority.' WOW!!!

Never in a million years, would I have said that to either of my parents, as a child OR an adult under THEIR roof.

He's pushing to see how far he can go before anyone steps to him. If no one does, he'll push more and more as time goes on.

He'd be a ghost in my house too. Though definitely in the literal sense of the word! LOL. }:)

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Submitted by WalkOnBy on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 12:51pm

what's interesting is that he wasn't aggressive or defiant in tone when he said it. It's just very matter of fact - nope, can't do that.

If he was my kid, he would have found my hand right across his face had he uttered those words to me. But, then again, that's why my kids are respectful and productive humans and DH's kids are, well, not.

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Submitted by AlreadyGone on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 2:38pm

Yeah, that'd be total and complete arrogance rearing it's ugly head. Sad

I remember once upon a time, my now xSD, telling me plainly and calmly (in front of extended family) that she 'was in no way under any obligation to eat' the dinner I spent half the day cooking for everyone. This while she went through my cabinets and refrigerator grabbing up what she decided to eat instead. I imagine she thought that she'd get away with it since there were people around. You should have seen the look on her ugly little face when I told her calmly and plainly, to grab her belongings because her cab would be there in 10 minutes. Still not sure who was more surprised... her, my XH, or his family. Of course my dad and my SM sat there with huge smiles on their faces, glowing with pride I dare say, lol. One of only a handful of good memories I recall from my time in StepHell, lol. Dirol

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Submitted by WalkOnBy on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 2:46pm

It IS arrogance, though this brat has nothing to be arrogant about.

I do feel bad for DH, I really do. I can't imagine what it must be like knowing that ASS is your kid.

But, I do me and I don't let ASS get under my skin.

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Submitted by WalkOnBy on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 1:07pm

I think I will record that on a loop and play it outside ASS's door all night long...

"I've been doing it since I was a young kid, I come out grinnin"

of course, ASS doesn't grin, but otherwise accurate.

He has ALWAYS been the kid who bucks the system. Okay, dude, carry on.

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Submitted by Tuff Noogies on Fri, 04/15/2016 - 9:47am

OR, "should i stay or should i go" - that one line about trouble, "if i stay it will be double". you need to crank that up the day OF graduation!!!!

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Submitted by WalkOnBy on Thu, 04/14/2016 - 2:44pm

I don't think ASS will stay until September. I think DH believes that ASS will leave before September 1, but I also think DH needs to feel like he isn't putting ASS out on the street the second after graduation. I think DH needs to feel like he is giving as wide a path as possible so that HE can feel okay with the ASS that ASS has turned into.

The beauty of disengagement is that I don't really care if ASS stays til September 1 or leaves next week.

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Fri, 04/15/2016 - 12:01pm

In fact, buy the stuff for the room conversion and have it sitting outside the door, if possible. }:)

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Submitted by Tuff Noogies on Fri, 04/15/2016 - 12:15pm

here's another idea - get samples of paint colors. paint them on posterboard and DUCT TAPE them to A$$'s bedroom walls - "just need to see the colors in different lights during the day, donchaknow, so you know what color to buy after you graduate!"

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Fri, 04/15/2016 - 12:17pm

Tuff, I was just about to suggest that! Carpet samples, tile samples... Bwahahahahaaaaaaaaaa!!!

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Submitted by WalkOnBy on Fri, 04/15/2016 - 1:06pm

Ba h a ha ha! I like this idea, I just might do it Smile

I will use pretty pretty pink duct tape, I think!!