I'm done with this BS
Have any of you pointed things out to your SOs, DHs, or DWs and nothing happens? Or maybe they try but they just can't seem to notice bad behavior such as a 5 or 7 year old child screaming at them? How anybody can't see that is beyond me. Have you ever heard the excuse of it's just gone on this way for so long that I don't even notice when it's happening? Or could you point it out to me next time so I can do something about it? Yay. (That's what I want to look like the bad guy.) How about I have such had time punishing my youngest because he's the littlest out of all of the kids?
I am fed up with BS escuses of why it's okay to rectify a situation or correct bad behavior. I am sick of things having to get so out of hand before an actual punishment will be implimented. I though, and I might be crazy here, that you correct the behavior when it happens in order to prevent it from happening again.
Here's an example of what I am talking about. I've told SO for over a year now that he shouldn't let his BD(7) scream at him, argue with him, and treat him disrespectfully and that she should be punished, with an actual punishment not a time out for doing so. This little girl has treated him like this since before I came into the picture. DH doesn't listen. SD treats her grand parents the same way that she treats her father in front of DH and now we are going to go to an actual punishment to fix the behavior.
SD(7) has been threatening me in order to bullie me into doing things for her. I tell DH that this will not be tolerated and that the next time she does it I am going to buy the uglyest school uniforms that I can find remove all of her clothing from her closet and she can wear those all week long as a punishment. Of course DH thinks that I'm being to harsh. I also think that when she deliberately breaks a rule just because she can and nobody is around that she loses her movie and goes to bed early. Again, DH thinks I'm being to harsh.
I am failing to see how threatening an adult and blantantly disobeying rules is not disrespecting an adult and I'll be damned if a 7 year is going to threaten me. But of course DH is going to take his usual approach of It's not that bad until things get really out of control and then he'll want to do something about it. Case in point, her complete disrespect to her grand parents, which by the way was completely imbarassing.
What the hell is wrong with people that they think that the bad behavior is just going to go away one day and it's just a phase. And how could anyone allow a child to yell at them and not correct it and then claim they didn't notice because their kids have been doing it to them for so long. Why wasn't this bahavior corrected when it first started instead of becoming so routine that they just don't notice it anymore?
I'm just done with it. I am going to disengage from the situation. Not because of the kids but because of the fact that I will not participate in this style of parenting and having to be the one who is like DH, your kid probably shouldn't do that and DH your kid probably shouldn't yell at you, call you names, argue with you, ignore your requests to have something done and make you ask multiple times.DH you shouldn't have to yell at your kids just to get them to listen to you and this list can go on and on and on just to be ignored with some BS excuse of why he just can't manage to step up to the plate. I already have a child to parent who doesn't act that way. Obviously I have done something right. I have never seen her lay a hand on another child and the few times she has tried to test the boundaries with me she receives a clear message of exactly where her place is, which is in kid status. All of her teachers have loved her and say that she is a great student and she interacts with the other kids in her class very well has lots of friends.