Don't know what to do...I hate my stepson.
I finally feel like I'm not alone. I can relate to so many comments and blog entries. I have a teenage stepson who has lived with my husband and I for the last seven years. Like many, at first I tried very hard to be a good mom to him, but got no where. I would help with homework, fix meals...all the traditional family things. At first it wasn't too bad, minor behavior problems in school mostly. Now that he is a teenager things have gotten worse. He is stealing things from the house. He has taken jewelry, my husband's sports memorabilia, and the thing that bothers me the most is he has taken my underwear. I don't trust him to be in the house by himself. He takes food to his room and puts the wrappers and trash under his matress. I end up cleaning up the mess all the time. I know cleaning up after kids is part of being a parent, but I feel he is old enough to respect some rules. I can't watch him all the time; my husband and I have two young children of our own. I thought that after my stepson failed the 8th grade last year my husband would have him go live with his mother, but I'm not that lucky. I just don't know what to do. I have tried ignoring my step son, but I can't let him distroy the house and steal all my things. I try to keep my children away from him because I feel like they will grow up to be disrespectful and lazy also. I have tried talking to my husband about how I feel and have gotten no where. I usually end up doing things on the weekends by myself with my kids just to get away from my stepson. I feel like a horrible person for hating my stepson, but some of the things he has done I can not over look. I wish my husband would support me more and try to understand how I feel. I know he is his son, but my husband does not spend time with him. My husband works full time and is taking college classes. I don't understand why my husband will not have him go live with his mother. I don't know if I can take this for 4 1/2 more years.