And so it begins!
SD9 has begun going back and forth between homes, by this I mean... confides in DH, then goes to BM and says a bunch of stuff or makes accusations vice versa between everyone. I have took the harsher approach of things because I am the one raising the children. BM gets them 4 days a month and continues the drama.
I adopted a child also... SD9 looked at my daughter yesterday and looks at me and says Hey why is she adopted!?
i was on fire! I lost it... SD7 said mommy told her that.
I do not communicate with BM anymore. She does not call or check on these children, the only interaction she gets with them is when she meets us to pick them up at the police station for her visiation time. I have now refused to be a part of pickups and drop offs. I have disengaged completely in that aspect... and yet the BM still continues on in her drama.. she texted DH last visit and told him to let me know not to put earrings in SDs ears to tight because they were infected...
they were completely fine, SD9 keeps pushing them in her ear and twisting them but went and told the BM I am doing it to her...
I once was very close to my SD's but now as they get older and are doing this underhanded toxic crap like BM... I know there kids and I know I will catch judgement over this but... I just don't want anything to do with them period right now. I am so angry.
I had to be more open to my daughter about her adoption and background... I was never going to be anything but transparent with her...its just.. she is only 5 years old... when SD9 and 7 say this crap to her I know it only hurts and confuses her.
How do I continue on like this!?