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Discovered that we were only defending ourselves.........

tryingtokeepthesanity's picture

My H found out from our attorney that he is only defending himself in the custody issue that was filed by pathological liar BM. He told him that if the evidence is untrue (which is) then she would pay our attorney fees but shared parenting plan would stay the same. In Ohio, you have to file physical and psychological harm for custody. Hello?? If I thought my own children were in danger from their BD, they wouldn't be back until the court issue was done!

Well, H decided to tell the attorney that we want to file for custody ourselves. The GAL visit was postponed because the GAL overbooked herself until after our court date in Jan. The attorney is going to file motion for custody and push back the date again. I figured it would be a great New Year's gift for her. Our attorney said that if the GAL is on our side..........his exact words.....she is toast!!

Its too bad that things like this just can't be hashed out in court right away. We still have to deal with psycho BM using the guilt powers on the kids. They are now with her for the rest of Xmas break. Lord help them!!

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SM#1's picture

I wish you the best!

JL's picture

I check this and another site called freeadvice.com. People go on their for legal advice. Well, there is a GAL on there from Ohio, her screenname is OhioGAL, and she is a hardass. If this woman is to be your GAL, and if you're the SM, please please please be careful that you don't overstep your boundaries with her. They chew up SP's on there (NCP and CP alike), tell them they're legal strangers to the kids, and to not involve themselves in things that are not their business. Make it clear that (even if it's not true) that you are only there for additonal support when needed, but that everything involving the kids is your DH's responsibility ie. discipline, child support etc. Don't use "we" when discussing child support, money. I know that it sounds weird, but try visiting the site. Please don't piss her off and jeopardize anything by being too "presumptuous". I think that she is a custodial BM too....

SM#1's picture

the courts don't want SP to be involved with the children much. The go by what the experts say. SP should not discipline or have any weight over the BP relationship with the kids or between them.

Even when it comes to our attorney I say quiet unless my H has trouble remembering something. I do let the attorney know that I try to help out as much as I can--but he is the primary parent.