:jawdrop:

Let's SAY...

that you are the father of a child. The mother has never let you have visitation without her around...for reasons such as "she will cry if I'm not there. you haven't proved you can take care of her. I'm not comfortable with her riding in a car with anyone if im not there" etc. etc.

Due to financial reasons you haven't been able to afford a lawyer as such. You tried visiting with child once a week for months with mother there, but she is volatile and impossible to deal with...i.e. tells you that you are not allowed to refer to yourself as "Dad" to the child, b/c her new boyfriend is "Dad" and if you do so..you will not be allowed to see her anymore.

etc. etc.

Eventually you give up on "visiting" and start trying to save for a lawyer, but again, finances are hard to come by...so a year goes by without seeing the child. (visits when on until child was 3- 4 yr. now)

THEN...you find out that the mother's boyfriend has been a heroin addict for ten + years, and continues to use it on a regular basis. You see that he has totaled their Ford Explorer, The child has cut a huge chunk of hair from her head all on her own. BF also uses oxycotton, percosets, xanax, cocain, smokes weed, is a raging alcoholic...(where does he find the time??) and both bf and mother are "swingers" and have frequent orgies and things of that nature. Let's say you don't do any drugs what so ever-lead a fairly upstanding life, have two other children that live with you full time and you take the very best care of.

Bf and mother have 4 kids- 2 part time boys from the bf, your daughter, and a baby on the way between the two of them.

But here's the kicker. The way you obtained this information about the drug usage and swinging and what not was not exactly on the "up and up" and may have involved some hacking....having seen these things in their own words, you know it's true...but you don't know how to go about proving it without getting yourself into trouble....and don't know if it's substantial proof of such goings on.

however, now having this information you are concerned about the welfare of your child, obviously.

what do you do???