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We have SD13 this weekend (even though it’s BM’s weekend) because DH wants to “have her as much as possible.”
I got home from work around 5:30 and SD asks DH if she can go to a football game with her friends tonight. DH doesn’t have a problem with this except that it’s in a neighborhing town at least 30 minutes away (one way). He does have a problem with driving her there.
Nows she’s sulking around the house and trying to work something out because DH is fine with taking her there if someone else can get her home (or vice versa).
If you need the first installment, it’s in my last blog post. So here’s the update:
It left off with DH texting BM about the tardies and how she needs to get SD to school on time. BM never responded and that’s not because she didn’t get the text (she’s played that game before). DH knew she didn’t have anything to say, aka, couldn’t make up a good enough lie/excuse.
DH and I both know that BM can’t get SD to school on time, but didn’t know just how often this was happening.
DH lets me look at the messages the school leaves on their online system. I was looking around and saw “attendance.” From January to May (when school is basically over), SD had 45 recorded tardies. 45!
Would you want your mother at your bachelorette party?
My DH set up resort arrangements for his middle daughter’s (MSD) bachelorette party (OSD did the party planning). I wasn’t invited (nor expected to be). I saw some pics on social media and his ex was there. Is that not weird?
I would have never thought to have my mom at my bachelorette party, nor have I been to one with anyone’s mother present (even if mom was a party-er).
This is the first I’ve blogged about this, but SD has lice again. She found one late Saturday night. I then found some nits on DD Sunday (a fear I’ve had since she was born). I’ve had luck getting them off DD and vacuumed the house like a fiend. Today (Wednesday) was the first time we had SD since Sunday afternoon. I’d been saying to DH for days that she needs to be checked the next time she comes. He would mention it to her and say things like “I can check you if you want.” If you want?!? Oh hell no! She’s getting checked whether she likes it or not.
So after DH didn’t get to see SD for Father’s Day (see previous blog post), the plan was that DH would pick her up at 3:30 after he was done with camp.
DH calls me at 3:50, which I was assuming to tell me he was almost home, but that was not the case. He drove all the way across town to pick SD up only to take her to her Aunt’s house. (Aunt is really BM’s Aunt) DH told me that he got to see SD for a whole 5 minutes because BM forgot that plans were made with Aunt to go see a movie. Good grief!
BM texted DH around 10am asking if he’d like to pick up SD13. He called and they made arrangements to meet at their meeting place at 1pm. DH and I already had plans to run in to school (across town) to set up for camp which started the next day. Everything seemed to work out and DH told BM what the plan was.
It’s been a minute since I’ve posted here, but I just need to vent.
DH and I haven’t consistently had SD12 the last month because of spring break (our’s didn’t line up with her’s). We’ve noticed that when she’s with BM for extended periods, she acts even more like a turd when she’s with us. The few times we’ve had her since break has been over, she just sleeps on the couch because she’s so tired. She likes to brag about how late she stays up at night, even on school nights.
Nothing has really changed since my last post. SD goes back and forth from being sweet to being a turd. DH and I haven’t gone over our expectations with her still but she also hasn’t been with us much. She spent her 2 week Winter break with BM and has been a Negative Nancy since. Even to the point that DH has mentioned it to her and doesn’t enjoy being with her when she’s like that.
Tonight was actually a pleasant evening with SD12.