UPDATE!!! (Well darn it! That didn’t last long.)
Guess who DH is picking up tomorrow at 2pm? SD13.
After talking with SD on Thursday he went a text to her and BM about SD coming to stay with us for 2 weeks. When he mentioned 2 weeks to SD during the phone call she said "I don't know if I can be away from my mom for that long. I've grown closer to her since I've been with her so much lately."
BM also said something about SD not wanting to stay for that long. So she's staying through Tuesday or Wednesday. DH is hoping she'll stay longer.
I am not thrilled at all! Yeah, SD can bug me but I'm more pissed from a social distancing aspect. BM says they've been home and haven't had people over, but I don't believe that for a second. There's more I could say but I'm just silently fuming.
UPDATE since I posted this yesterday.
I talked with DH and voiced my concerns again. I could tell that his demeanor changed since I brought it up and was worried he was mad at me (silly, I know). He wasn't mad at me but more upset with himself and the situation because SD was not in a good place. She said she wasn't going to hurt herself though, which is a step up from what she has said in the past.
As he was putting DD to bed he said he'd check out BM's social media to see if there was anything on there he could use as leverage. I already knew there wouldn't be because she hardly ever posts anything and I'm pretty sure her profile is set to public.
He then texted me that he had some good news and he tell me after DD was asleep. Turns out he texted BM, now of which I can't remember the bulk of but he said something about not wanting to be negligent by not social distancing the way we should. He thinks the word negligent hit a nerve with BM and she quickly changed her tune. She said something about re-evaluating things and maybe we could just drive to visit her on the sidewalk like we did last week. Woah! DH thinks she changed her tune because during the divorce precedings, the judge called her negligent/neglectful and DH thinks she doesn't want to been seen as neglectful. He might be giving her too much credit, but whatever.
DH did admit that he wished he didn't even give SD hope that she would come stay with us during that time. I just agreed with silence. He did say "we won the battle, not the war." I just hope we're not back in the same predicament a week from now.