Braces, Contacts, and High School - oh my!
More in the SD13 saga. I posted a few blogs ago about our lice bonding moment. Well, that’s what it was - a moment. I don’t think we barely spoke a word to each other when she was with us this last weekend. This is a novel and I’m not sure what I’m asking for with this post. Just some place to just let it all out.
SD has been talking non-stop about getting braces. She would mention it to DH like it was the newest thing that she had to have because “all my friends have braces.” Barf.
BM actually followed through with something and made her an appointment with an ortho near their house. Most of the info DH was hearing was from SD. He assumed that if BM wanted anything paid for that she would have to contact him, because there was no way DH was going to be paying for the whole thing.
The ortho office is not stupid and BM has provided them with a copy of the divorce decree. Their financial person deals with this kind of stuff all the time and DH agreed to what he had to pay. And he’s only responsible for his portion. He also gave SD an ultimatum that if she doesn’t take care of her teeth and braces that he’s done with them. We’ll see how that goes. SD had an appointment yesterday to get her spacers put in. DH said she doesn’t know what she’s getting herself into and she made it sound like it was going to be a piece of cake. Mind you, BM hasn’t really talked with her about the process. So this segues to the next part of the saga.
SD wears one-a-day contacts and (surprise, surprise) didn’t think to bring any with her for her weekend with us (that was really BM’s weekend, btw). She also did not bring her glasses. So on Saturday I hear her say to DH “so what, am I supposed to just walk around blind?” DH just kind of shrugged his shoulders like “what am I supposed to do?” Not to mention, BM picked her up from the football game the night before and drove her back to our place; why didn’t she have BM bring her some?
Yesterday DH was getting ready to head to SD’s ortho appointment and somehow talks with BM and/or SD (all this info was told to me by DH). SD told DH not to come to her appointment because BM was going to try and get him to give her $$ for new contacts. Then, BM apparently called the eye place and rattled off some story about DH’s insurance paying for the contacts. She was trying to use his insurance to get a discount on the contacts! Now, SD is covered by his insurance, but the joke is on BM, because the insurance doesn’t offer “discounts” on SD’s contacts. BM said to DH “so you pay this much each time you need to get the contacts?” Uh, duh!
This is the biggest part here. DH has been trying to get SD to attend the high school where he works for years! And to be honest, it would benefit SD. SD, for the most part has been on board, but like any kid (I’m assuming), waivered. Mainly for reasons like where her friends are going. She currently attends a private school so it’s likely that her friends won’t be all going to the same high school.
Well, her 8th grade year isn’t shaping up the way she thought and as of last week, she was in a tiff with some of her friends. They were posting stuff online about SD talking bad about people. DH also knows that SD is not innocent and she admitted that there was evidence of her talking about people.
So SD has told DH that she is attending high school where he works. BM is aware of this and apparently her and DH has a conversation about it. BM told him that it would better for SD to stay with him (us). Basically because she won’t be able to get SD to school on time. I also think she just hates driving to that side of town.
I knew the day would come that SD would be living with us, but I’m still apprehensive, even though I have some time to prepare myself.
The biggest thing that got my goat was the CS situation. I asked (well, told) DH that he wouldn’t be paying CS to BM once this happens and he said not right away! WTactualF?!?!?
At this point, I don’t even care if she ends up having to pay CS to him. I just don’t think this is something to wait on. He said some bs about SD thinking that everything is being taken away from BM or some bs like that. I just had to keep my mouth shut. But with one on the way and SD living with us more often than not in the next year or so, I’m not letting this one die.