This week's fresh hell
Skids came yesterday and as is apparently inevitable, it was an immediate shit show. Every single week, it's a f'ng debacle and I am so over it. I actually made dinner plans with friends so I could prolong seeing skids.
I didn't get out the door fast enough so saw SD13 after she got home from school- she was in a good mood, said she was good and nothing was new, and I left.
DH got home 10 mins later and started messaging me that SD got "cornered, tripped, and punched at school that day". Crazy had sent him a message because the principal called her- DH never got a message from the school. Crazy gave him the names of the 3 girls involved and told him to "track down their parents and call them". DH was like, hm...why wouldn't the school be handling this? He wanted more details so he talked to the principal who had already called the parents, and the school was giving the girl who hit SD "additional consequences", that the school would not disclose.
DH text me that he is so over the drama. Last visit SD was talking about suicide, but not really planning on it. Now immediately this. He said he just needs a few weeks of normal. When I got home we talked about it and he said he is so sick of the drama with the kids, each week they come we just know something will blow up. I said I absolutely get it, I try to take a backseat but I have less of a tolerance for this stuff so I feel it just as much. He said it's probably harder for me since I just have to watch it all happen with no real say. Did DH have empathy for the plight of a SM??? I said yes that's true, my say is taken with a grain of salt and you and Crazy call the shots. It's really hard.
Then Crazy had sent him approximately 8 messages on OFW in the past 2 days- One said "the kids are sick of you always asking your wife for permission to do anything. You ask permission to take SD ice skating or roller skating and when she says no SD goes to her room, because your wife doesn't care about SD like she says she does". *ROFL* First of all, DH would never take SD ice skating. He hates winter activities. He has never asked permission to do these things. Crazy keeps trying to demand he do it. And if he wants to take the kids to do something, he will do it- he'll tell me what he's thinking and then we talk about it and I will either go or not go. There were more messages demanding "spend time with your daughter!!!", and talking shit about me. DH finally responded that he's done with her parental alienation tactics that are obvious even through the app- she needs to be positive about us to SD because it affects her mental health, and he didn't follow through on filing for contempt of court last time, but he will be doing it this time- the app is only for emergencies and to be short and to the point, and he's done listening to it. My wife and I make decisions together based on what we deem appropriate". Her response was "You have been in contempt of court on this app also". lol (ETA- this is the only message he has responded to of hers that was not medical-related. He hasn't engaged with her at all).
Then she sent another message about a Dr. appt, which she had already messaged about. And then sent ANOTHER message saying "I don't think us taking each other to court is the best thing to do right now. We should be talking to SD's therapist trying to figure this out". So she is obviously worried about DH taking her to court. Should have thought about that before, you dumb whore.
We don't even care if the courts don't actually DO anything to her (althought that would be ideal). If they even reiterated the communication guidelines, that's great. Her messaging and bashing is so constant, and she's saying it all to SD also. It just needs to stop.
I absolutely hate Steplife.