I reallllly dislike the dynamic in our home when skids are with us for a multitude of reasons, which mainly include: how SD14 manages to ruin any fun activity by pouting or complaining and never having fun, how she tells DH each week that Crazy does everything for her and he does nothing for her, her inability to maintain friends or find any activities to do outside of the house thereby making DH her only form of entertainment, and the way DH has SS17 on a pedestal so SS can do no wrong...I could go on but these are the current highlights. Just this week DH told me SS17 was his favorite 3 times. Ok DH I get it, calm down. As much as I'm irritated and hurt by SD at the moment, I reminded him he needs to see her good qualities also. The favoritism is a bit much at times.
 

Tonight He mentioned SS sent him a screenshot of his checking balance and said he was glad DH had a talk with him about saving, because he has a whole new attitude about saving now. I reminded DH that SD is good at saving too and although she's only 14 she has more $ saved than SS. He said "yeah but she doesn't have any bills, and SS does, and we'll see how long she keeps that up..also SS was down to almost nothing this summer and already has thousands saved". Good grief. The fact that SS blew all his $ and DH had to bail him out is overlooked- we just focus on the fact that he has $ now because DH forced him to save (DH got access to his checking acct and started looking at it to make sure he wasn't spending all his $). I'm pretty sure DH thinks SS shits glitter.
 

I haven't been talking to SD at all after she told Crazy lies about me, but today DH told me she text him that she got a part in the school play. He said in true SD fashion, she was pouty about it and not excited at all. He said, she is always so pouty and manages to make everything miserable (this is true), yet she'll run downstairs by us and be over-the-top excited about something like a show she's watching or a tik tok and make a huge childish production out of it.. I 100% agree and this is something I have never said out loud to DH because he gets way defensive, but I told him it sucks because I try and think of fun things to do with her but in the end never suggest anything because she just doesn't seem to have fun doing anything we take her to and manages to ruin it, so what's the point? He completely agreed and said he is so sick of it and hopes she matures and it changes soon. I honestly don't want to feel that way about her, but man it's a relief when their own bio parent agrees with how you feel so you're not just the evil SM... I just wish I didn't dread every single skid week. It's only Friday and already I have the skid-week scaries, dreading Monday.