Round 2 of a teen with no life
I am going to put on my most unfavorable look as a SM here, but I'm not sure I care, so here it is- when will this F'ng girl get her own life??
SD will be 14 next month. She doesn't do things with friends. Her only plans include occasionally babysitting for a few hours. And because of her suicidal statements, leaving her alone here and there to go do things has kind of gone by the wayside. I have ranted about this before and we went through this exact same thing with SS17, but when I was her age, I was ALWAYS out doing something with friends. SD can't keep friends, so that doesn't happen.
So here is our new routine with SD-pouty-pants. She comes to our house, usually in a somewhat sullen mood. Sometimes having apparently said she doesn't want to come here, which we hear about from SS or see in her texts to Crazy. She is usually fine for a few days, this past wknd she read us her speeches she had to write, invited me to her concert at school, but didn't talk to me about anything else, which is a new thing. Then things went downhill. We went to dinner, she was entitled and a brat and I had to just stop talking to her before I really snapped on her. The next day she barely said a word to either of us as we ran mother's day errands for DH's mom and had a cookout with my brother and his wife. She wolfed down a burger and ran back to her room. DH didn't even bother trying- he just let it happen, and where he would normally go to her room to talk and try to engage her, he just didn't. I don't blame him, it's exhausting and every single time she's here now, this happens. She went by Crazy's on Sun, and I got not one peep about Mother's day. (I did get a Happy Mother's day text from SS17, which was nice.) At DH's mom's house for Mother's day, DH's sister told me that she can see that SD is so similar to Crazy, and honestly, she's not wrong. SD is so far up Crazy's ass and it has finally shown in a big way.
Now skids come again on Friday for 9 NIGHTS (we are on this F'd up schedule since DH offered Crazy right of first refusal for our recent trip and DH insists on making it a switch, so we are making up our extra days). I leave for a work trip Sun- Fri, and I'm ecstatic that I will be missing the majority of this skid period. But, when I get back, it's Memorial Day wknd. I usually look forward to it, but we have skids. SS17 will be doing his own thing, but we have friends with a boat, friends we could go do things with, but with SD having zero life, I'm sure we won't do any of that, so we will be around home, where she will suck the life out of the wknd. I know she expects us to take her to do things, but it's just NOT fun. She gets an attitude and is pouty and doesn't even deserve it honestly, and now she thinks she can argue with DH and it's like arguing with Crazy. We have been having people over to our bar quite a few wknds, so we may do that, but it would be nice to actually go DO something with friends.
I hate that a 13yr old with a crappy attitude and no life is now holding us back from doing things. There, I said it. Yes it's DH's kid and apparently this is what people do now, entertain their teens who can't seem to find their own life, but I am NOT on board with it and I am realllly starting to resent the whole thing. And although the answer may seem that Crazy should have more custody- 1. She hasn't even asked, and 2. DH would end up getting absolutely anhialated with child support, so that won't happen unless someone else forces the issue.
DH and I are just praying that when SD turns 14 and gets a job at the end of June, this may turn around. Also, she started anti-depressants 2 weeks ago, so we'll see how that goes. How are people supposed to have 2 teens at the same time???