DH lost his sh*t
Skids come today (notice how they are not even here yet?) and sh*t has already hit the fan. It's simply exhausting- every Monday they come, it's some new fresh hell.
Today, I got home from a massage, relaxed and excited to tell DH about some news I had- we are purchasing a home overseas (very reasonably priced- we are not rich by any means) and I had talked to the realtor for the first time while I was out and got a ton of info, plus he sent me a link with videos to our favorite home so far. I got as far as telling DH that I had the phone call and the realtor sent an email- DH opened his email to look, and lo and behold, the first thing he sees is an email from SD13's school. Before I even knew what was happening, DH yelled all kinds of obscenities and was PISSED. The teacher said SD was talking to kids in the hallway and a teacher heard SD's voice above everyone's, talking very loudly, and she said the B word and F word. The teacher called SD into her classroom, asked what she was talking about- SD wouldn't elaborate. So they are putting it as a minor incident in her file. This is the 3RD email he's gotten from the school regarding incidents SD was a participant in in the past few months.
DH immediately text SD that she is losing her phone until Friday and there will be additional consequences. He was sitting there fuming, just repeating, "I don't even know what to do with her...I don't even know what to say to her". He then went up to her room, searched her room again for knives or sharp objects (she has been talking about suicide since summer- yes she is in counseling) and then took every electronic she has- the ipad that I gave her that she doesn't even use, old phone, TV remote and cord. He said he was tempted to take the door off her room. He is on 2nd shift this week, which he's not happy about now that this is happening, but the second she gets home she is supposed to call him.
DH was so mad and at his wits end that we never did get to discuss all of my news before he left for work. *Why this is a big deal: You don't usually just say "b*tch" casually - you are usually calling someone it, which isn't ok. It's not just swearing. She wasn't just saying it- the school said she was practically yelling these things in the hallway. Again, this is the 3RD email DH has gotten from the school- SD keeps getting in trouble for things. Last time she bent a kids finger back until he screamed. Her punishments are increasing the more times DH gets emails from school.
What's crazy is she is on high honor roll, and honestly she's not a bad kid, we just cannot figure out wtf she is doing with her behavior at school or what to do about it.
What I do know, is they manage to ruin everything. We had a glorious weekend, but those days are gone and here we are in skid hell.