I am 41, have 3 children biologically. I have been with my fiancé for 13 years. (World's longest engagement for financial reasons, mostly my fault.) Anyway, my fiancé is 50, he has grown children whom I had some issues with when they were teens but everything is fine now. The issue is his youngest son, age 12. (He had a fling with a bar whore, she got pregnant, now he pays outrageous child support.) I do not like confrontation at all! I never discipline this child and seldom even with my own children and I know they would still love me! It's just not in my nature to be a take charge person then I feel taken advantage of. My main complaint with the 12 year old is he is spoiled rotten by EVERYONE. Everyone just adores him! His baptism was televised here! I'm not jealous he gets attention, in fact I'm such a loner, I avoid any undue attention and social interaction. This child is 12 years old and cannot entertain himself! Not even for 5 minutes! Never seen such a needy baby in my life! I remember my kids loved when I'd trust them alone when I'd go to the store or short errands, this kid cannot even go to the bathroom without having someone go upstairs and wait outside the door for him! It is ridiculous. My kids entertained themselves and didn't require one on one, right in your face, 24/7 undivided attention. My fiancé criticizes me for not disciplining my children yet he does nothing to remedy situations with his own brat! The most frustrating thing is my fiancé expects ME to entertain his kid yet does nothing with my kids. I guess my kids aren't demanding and needy. This boy is mouthy, disrespectful and knows-it-all! Just annoying and irritating, obnoxious and snotty! He does have some good qualities, I know children need attention. He knows classic rock, songs that were even before my time! He is pretty smart. He is a cute kid (looks just like his handsome Daddy.) Unfortunately his appearance does not make him anymore like able. I still feel awkward and uncomfortable around him and he knows it, he can sense it and it seems like he enjoys making me uneasy. I think if maybe I just grow up and just once take charge maybe things would change for the better?