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TooTired's picture

I feel like I'm trapped and the worst part is I'm the one that's allowed it to happen. Obviously if I could go back in time I would be able to recognize all the red flags but I was naive. The thing is now is that I'm miserable and I don't know how to fix it. I want to just blurt out all the feelings I've been holding back but I'm scared to. But why am I scared? I'm scared DH won't even care about my feelings and will hit me with his "my way or the highway" attitude and tell me to leave? I don't know if I can carry on like this though. I don't even feel like myself any more. Has anyone else gone through feeling this way? Did you eventually just burst and let loose on DH? How did you fix feeling like this? 


TiredfrustratedandDONE's picture

And told DH the truth. About my feelings, my thoughts and what I wanted to happen. He didn't understand. He took my truth as an attack on his own when I merely was stating he needs to work on Getting his behaviour in check because it is getting worse. He didn't like that. We broke up. It's over. I'm sad, relieved but sad becauz our relationship was good for the most part. He doesn't see it from my pov so o guess it's done. I lost myself in all ofthis. I can't sit by and watch myself deteriorate at the expense of DH not knowing how I really feel. 

my opinion? 
do you think it's worth holding your tongue? Are you willing to do it for the rest of your life? Will it get better if you do speak the truth? 

probably not. Tell him the truth and his reaction will prove to you what you need to do.

TooTired's picture

It's so hard feeling this way and knowing it needs to change but being scared of the outcome. Especially with a new baby. I feel like I'm failing DS already Sad