BM $20,000 Insurance Charge
OK this is too much - I am outraged.
Just find out that BM not only had DH pay for the birth delivery of the child she had with another man in sept. 2007, after DH and exW separated, he got his own place and she of course had a man waiting in the wind that moved in with her. She got pregnant while still married and again, not only had DH's medical insurance pay for the birth delivery for $5000.00 but also had two separate mystery procedures that total $15,000.00 -- Is that unreal? I can't believe the b@&*$!!!
:jawdrop:
How did I found out? ? :-? :puzzled:
Well now married to DH, I'm on his plan and created an online acct with med.ins. and when I logged in to get info on a GYN, because we want to have a baby I see this SH@T. The nerve. She has a man, she has a job and he has a job but DH is paying for her medical escapades. Well, when I clicked to see what was the medical procedure, it said "private". Double slap. His medical insurance won't tell him what she had done. Outrageous. So an email was sent to find out. Of course, I told him and he was suprised about the two other procedures. Supposedly, his lawyer advised him that if he was still married even though living in two separate places that she needed to stay on his insurance until the divorce. Well, I'm going to investigate that. This stupid lawyer enabled this B to a free birthing experience that she and her man couldn't afford - adultery daaahhh!!!
$20K I'm fuming.
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!
:sick: :barf:
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Lawyer is right.
Sorry, but that's the way it is. I had to keep my ex on my insurance until we were legally separated. (I don't mean living apart, but legally and formally separated. In my state, you have to be legally separated for a year before your divorce can be finalized.) My DH and his ex had to keep each other on their respective medical insurance policies until they were legally separated. I know it grates on your nerves and she may definitely be a bitch for a myriad of other reasons, but if they were still legally married and she was still on his policy, then she had every right to use it, even to have another man's baby. At that time, it wasn't just his insurance, it was still their insurance. I know that's hard to swallow, but try not to let it get to you. We can't allow ourselves to get bogged down in the history that took place between our spouses and their former spouses. Things like this are going to sting, but it's in the past. Try to let it go.
♥ Georgia ♥
"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)
You're Right
...Georgia, it's hard to swallow. I'm going to let it go after I find out what the two other surgeries were. Nosy me. DH is so laid back that he's careless and he gets taken advantage of because of it.
Also, the thing with medical insurance is that there are limits on how much can be paid out, reimbursements, etc. so that can affect future surgeries -- as fate would have it, he's schedule for surgery in a few weeks.
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My H had to keep his X on the ins for 18 months after the divorce. Its the law in our state.
So glad...
...I don't live there. Wooow!!! 18months. I understand for the kids but for the exW???
This BM has a job, a man with a job and insurance, if you don't have insurance ok fine - but when you have it and want somebody else pay for it while you're shacking up -- I don't get it.
Technically Yes It's His Money
vickiemac, if he didn't have this job that offers one of the best insurance's nationwide - she wouldn't have gotten it her medical escapades paid - technically every hour he works he pays - he paid for it with his the sweat of his brow - the insurance company paid her bills because DH worked. (period)
it's something that happened that I can't change but d@mn - it's irrating.
Vickie means the $20k, not the premiums.
He may have paid the premiums and maybe that's something he should have asked her to reimburse him for in the property settlement, but it's pretty standard procedure, I'm afraid. He did pay the premiums for coverage that included her as his wife, which she was at the time, but he didn't pay the $20k out-of-pocket. And if he had to pay for family coverage, anyway, to keep covering the skids, then the premiums may have been the same whether BM was on it or not. I think that's what Vickie was getting at. Not sure how his insurance works, but my DH's company has a single plan, employee + spouse plan and then a family plan. If we got divorced, he'd still be paying the same amount because he'd still need the family plan to cover the kids. Now, if we had no kids and he went from employee + spouse to single, then yes, that would cost less. I know it's irritating, but like I said, it's history. Don't let it bog you down.
♥ Georgia ♥
"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)
They were married
I'm not understanding your post. If they were married that was just as much her insurance ect. and as his wife is entitled until she is no longer covered. Anything out of pocket would be split between them or whatever the court ordered until they are legally divorced. Its the same if a man works outside the home, and the wife doesn't; that is still her income ect. and the courts recognize that thankfully.
You gotta love this one. My
You gotta love this one. My situation has BM cohab. w/biker guy for 2 years (in uncommitted relationship) but DH paid alimony entire time b.c. mail wasn't delivered to house for him. How bogus! DH did nothing but pay on time (was DH too scared to speak up, felt guilty about divorce, lost in a fog?). Worst is BM allows biker boyfriend to live there free. Neither works, they just ride around all day, etc. Biker does nothing to help BM either, total sponge & swins hate him. This makes me both jealous (I had to work full time when I was divorced & lived alone w/BD) & angry (swins shouldn't be around this guy & his "friends" & all the guns/partying). But my hands are tied as DH must be the one to initiate action & stop this insanity.
Amazing...
how these same BMs are the ones saying the money is not enough, DH was so bad and is so bad to me but they let a moocher in their home to devour what DH has given them. I don't understand the logic. annacanbike, that situation right there is heart wrenching. I know how you feel, I had to take care of my son on one salary, no child support ever and it was very difficult. I just don't like how these BMs are ungrateful, petty and vicious.