SS's deal with the devil comes due
So, when we left off, my SS20 had to leave the country by age 21, or get another type of visa in order to stay, as he has been a dependent on his mother's visa and that ends at 21. In typical Failure to Launch fashion, he has been doing exactly NOTHING to achieve that, other than the usual lying to himself about what he was going to do, playing video games, watching TV, and eating. Child Support also ends at 21 here, so DH has been giving BM 1K per month to help support this grown man while he does the above activities - 10 more payments due.
Well, last night SS texted DH and told him that BM told him she has filed for her own permanent resident card (Green Card), and that he, SS, needs to be out of her home by the summer as a result. Yep, just as my DH predicted long ago, CS ends, out goes SS. And she apparently has no plan to help him get a green card himself. Supposedly they were in a big screaming fight, which has always been when SS suddenly wants a father in his life and starts texting DH.
Now, part of me says GOOD FOR YOU BM, since his refusal to do anything for himself is infuriating. But this is a woman who made sure SS was completely aligned with her and totally dependent, asked him to lie for her and allowed him to refuse to have any kind of relationship with DH for years. They've been completely enmeshed and aligned - only for her to boot him out on his own when he's outlived his usefulness.
On the other hand, SS made a deal with the devil in aligning himself with her, he's lied repeatedly about DH in court, and he's treated DH like dirt for the last 5 years - as well as made zero effort in his own life. He's had years of therapy to address this crazy with BM and instead used it to talk about how awful DH was. I get parental alienation - but at this point, he's become a toxic and entitled GROWN MAN and I have no more sympathy for him. He's made his bed, he'll have to lie in it.
DH already told him he's not living with us. We could get him a green card, but then he'll just go back to BM's, kiss and make up, and continue his failure to launch mode. So it's best for him to go to Canada and seek his fortune - but I know none of it will happen without more drama and disruption to us.