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Nothing Says Love Like A Court Summons

tog redux's picture

SS19 is still dealing with the fall-out from his attraction to crazy girls and his most recent break-up. She served him with a summons last week after they broke up, exact reason unclear.  He apparently does have to fly to her city to meet with her and her attorney and get something notarized. DH offered his help in sorting it out, but SS declined, most likely because he's not being honest about his own part in this.  But anyway - he talked to the ex-GF last night (I'm sure she's using these legal matters as an excuse to engage with him ... hmm, that sounds familiar). 

He told DH that she told him she still loves him and will pay him to stay with her, including paying for his green card.  Even SS could see that's crazy!

Well, he'd better get used to this - unless he un-enmeshes himself from his mother, this is going to be who he attracts and is attracted to.

And in other news, he's going to check out a job near where his brother lives in Canada. I'm guessing it won't be right for him, but we shall see. 


Petronella's picture

These are very exciting updates! Hey why not let the crazy girl pay for his green card. And good luck to him with the job! Is it physical labor?

tog redux's picture

I don't know - I think it might be, which means he will last a half day, if he even takes it. 

Letti.R's picture

I am amazed that your SS, being so young, could already be tied up in such a mess.
Poor kid.
Maybe he wants to take over the drama channel from BM, start a solo show?

(Apologies tog redux: it must only be added stress when you think it is about to end.)

tog redux's picture

Drama is all he knows. Crazy women who "need" him is all he knows.

It doesn't bother me because it's not my problem. He doesn't live here and CS WILL end, at 21, or if he moves out of BM's house to go get that job in Canada.

I actually feel sort of bad for him.

susanm's picture

Crossing my fingers for you that he doesn't get lured into bed when he goes out there and have her miraculously turn up pregnant 6 weeks later.   My SS also has an attraction to the certifiable type and is now a father in the early stages of custody hell.  What is it about the genes for crazy that somehow links to the genes for fertility?  If she is willing to actually pay him to stay with her, it is not a jump at all to trying to ensnare him with a pregnancy.

tog redux's picture

Yes, this is a worry, for sure.  I wish BM was going with him and putting her shrieking harpie skills to good use, but he told DH he'd "rather die than take her with him."

I suppose it's good he's got DH.

thinkthrice's picture

to Canada!!!  Maybe he'll stay out of trouble there.... NAH CS goes to forever in some cases.  Hopefully someone has taught him about birth control.

Petronella's picture

In Canada, CS generally ends at 19 unless the “child” is provably attending school full time. Also, spousal support is way less of a thing here. So if SS is gonna knock someone up, Canada is a much better place to do it!!

I agree they should ship him off TODAY.

tog redux's picture

Got no control over any of that!  We shall see what happens. Most US states stop CS at 18 or 19, NY is an outlier.

Petronella's picture

It’s funny, I was telling my DH about your and thinkthrice’s experience with CS and told him how if we lived in NY, he’d still be paying CS for SD20 who’s employed full time and actually pays rent to BM! And DHs very first question was- how do you know the “child” is even still living in BM’s home? They could easily be shacked up somewhere with a boyfriend or girlfriend and just be keeping BM’s place as a mailing address! After all, both the “child” and the “custodial” parent have a vested interest in keeping that CS going until the bitter end!

tog redux's picture

thinkthrice can speak to her sleuthing around that matter.  If SS hadn't come back into our lives, we planned similar sleuthing, maybe even a PI.

You probably can go to court and demand that information, but who wants to do that?  If a kid is employed and still living with the CP, you *might* be able to get it stopped, but probably not worth the effort.

Petronella's picture

I wonder sometimes if we’ll have to do any sleuthing in the future. Youngest SK’s 19th birthday is next year. She’s already spending weekends and longer at her adult boyfriend’s place, which we are NOT supposed to know about but the other SK let it slip. It’s quite possible that come that 19th birthday we may start hearing some fanciful combo of claims that we’ll need to verify for ourselves. I predict we’ll be told that SK miraculously back in school, and/or has been diagnosed with some disability or another; and of course they’ll never admit it when she moves out of BM’s house. 

I don’t do insta or facebook but my daughter does and is friends with her stepsisters. I might have to start asking DD for intel!

StrawberryPie's picture

Well they do say boys grow up and date people who remind them of their mother.  Looks like your SS is busy doing just that.  Hopefully the next gf will be less crazy. But prob not.

tog redux's picture

He actually had another girlfriend who accused him of raping her.  Yep, he knows how to pick 'em.

Goodluck's picture

OMG what in the world is the summons for? I realize you do not know....WOW  HOLY COW

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