First emails from BM in 2 years
When we last left off, SS20 had a big fight with Mommy Dearest, and she had told him she was getting her green card by June, and since he was a dependent on her prior visa, he would therefore be unable to stay in the country once she got a green card, and he'd have to get out of her house. He was texting DH all kinds of rotten things about BM and how much he would never speak to her again, yadda yadda.
As many of you predicted, they made up and all was "fine" as far as we could tell. SS continued on his Failure to Launch, making unrealistic plans and not making any effort towards anything he could actually achieve, for example, like getting his driver's license. He dropped out of community college a year ago and has done bupkis since then.
Two days ago, DH gets an email from BM saying that she got her green card and SS is now on a visitor visa, until the COVID issue is resolved. Mind you, DH last heard from BM 2 years ago when she threatened him with court because she was insisting that a tuition reimbursement available through her work (which was public information online) did not exist and so she expected DH to stop subtracting that from his half of tuition (it was in the CO that the tuition reimbursement should be applied). DH had been trying to communicate with her prior to that, but when she threatened him with court, he again went No Contact, which he had been for the last 3 years prior or so. Since the tuition reimbursement DID exist, she was just bluffing and there was no court.
DH ignores the email from BM, but I knew something was up - why would she tell him this? Last night he gets another one from her, very polite, even addressing him by name! Asking that he help pay for SS to get a green card, he can pay right to her attorney, and she will even magnanimously pay for more than half. She politely "requests acknowledgement of the reciept of this email."
DH offered to help SS get a green card 2 years ago if SS came up with at least half of the money. He was hoping to motivate SS to do something with his life. BM did not offer to be that half 2 years ago - now that she can do it herself, she wants DH to pay half. At this point, DH feels that SS has made zero effort to come up with his half, or do anything even remotely useful with his life, and he no longer wants to help pay.
He intends to ignore BM. So I'm guessing we will find out if there is any precedent in Family Law for ordering a parent to help pay for a green card. 7 more Child Support payments. 8 more months until BM no longer has any legal control. I knew there would be some drama before it was all over, so here we go ...