I honestly hadn't thought about it until you mentioned it. I can just see my SD's making a scene so that my funeral is all about them. I can also see them quietly rejoicing that they have their daddy back to themselves. I can also see them trying to talk or distract their daddy during the whole thing to the point that he doesn't even realize the funeral is over. I think I need a new will.

To be honest, no, never had that thought.
When I'm dead they can do what they like.
Don't dwell on stuff like that.
Be happy and live life now - you are a long time dead!
Kx

I plan on out living my dh so that doesn't happen! lol

No but as it is right now I don't have a problem with my skids but time will tell.

That made me laugh!!
I'm planning to outlive mine too!
K

"Tofurkey, turn that brain off for just a few seconds okay?"

That ^^might be right.
Sometimes I think and dwell about stuff that I have no control over, like what you are talking about, so I understand doing that, but I don't think it does one any good. It's ok to think all that, don't force it to go away, but then maybe let it go.
SD's at our funeral, our insurance money spent on skids, our SO's finding new love, and on and on. Nothing we can or should do about that in my opinion.

I don't worry about that, I worry about SD getting a hold of my jewelry. So my paranoia last year caused me to draft a document specifying who gets what pieces and making my best friend promise to distribute it to the right people. I don't think DH would handle it right. Also, I am sure that would cause SD who used to eye all my pieces would do whatever she wanted...

Oh yes.... We're dealing with my grandfather having cancer, so at the moment, I tend to get a little morbid a mite too often. It took us about a month to come to an agreement over what we would do about inheritance if DH goes first and if we go together. I never talked to him about SD being at the whole funeral bit because he would just be... unbelieving I'm sure, but I wouldn't want SD at my funeral either. Mostly I think because if they were still around it would be very upsetting to my parents and partially because I think she would further upset DH. That and I might be tempted to smite her from the afterlife when she danced on my grave.

Like Jsmom, I don't want SD20 to get my jewelry. Before I had my son, I worried about that. I know DH would want my engagement ring back to either sell or heaven forbid, give to SD. Now I don't worry so much. I think anything of mine DH would make sure would go to my own children.

As for my funeral...I'll be dead so I don't care who's there!

I've had thoughts like that. I've also pictured them rifling through my belongings (that I've had to hide and keep locked up in order to keep them from stealing while I'm alive). I've pictured them all moving into my home and destroying it, doing all those things that made me cringe while I was alive (rubbing feet on furniture, leaving soda rings all over the counter, stuffing trash under the cushions, smearing their dirty hands all over walls and windows, etc). Then I've decided that I absolutely MUST outlive my SO to protect what's mine, MINE, MINE!

Then I turn my brain off for a few seconds to let it reset and think, "Who cares, I'll be dead."

I have no heirs. FDH made some comment about SD getting my jewelry if / when I die. I have a lot of jewelry because my grandma was a Home Shopping Network addict. I like my SD but the thought of my belongings going to her sent a chill up my spine. And, I have a SD & SS from my prior marriage who've been in my life WAY longer but FDH dismisses them entirely. Honestly, I'd rather leave my stuff to charity and I'm not exactly sure why.