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Hex lying under oath

Toastergirl's picture

Has anybody here experienced their hex lying on the stand during trial? Blatantly lying? When it comes to our word versus hers in testifying, whose will they believe? Can the GAL testify last so if he was able to glean answers from SD, it will be obvious hex was lying under oath?

It's become obvious she is going to deny everything, I'm just wondering how that works. If we can prove concretely she is lying, can she face charges?

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Maxwell09's picture

BM lied a lot when she testified. She went first as my DH was the plaintiff. Our lawyer asked her questions and set her up to prove she was a liar. She asked BM if she was in a relationship with a certain guy. She denied. Lawyer showed judge picture of her Facebook status from weeks before talking about her boyfriend. BM came back and claimed she wasn't seeing him anymore when our lawyer starting pulling up pictures of his drugs. Some of the stuff it was her word vs DHs but his lawyer had already proved her to be a liar so all DH had to do was tell the truth and judge believed his version of whatever it was. (BM claimed DH did not take or go to any of SSs medical appts, not true he was her ride to his 1yr appointment).

Salems Lot's picture

My BM and her family once lied under oath regarding SO. They couldn't keep their stories straight and finally one of them admitted to lying when questioned about it by SO's lawyer. All the judge did was scold them and told them not to do it again...

Shaman29's picture

It's family court, if they lie and the judge realizes it, they will just slap their hands.

You can do your best, but proving anything in family court is rarely going to get the results you feel are the best. Most, not all, but most judges will rule in favor of the BM. Or in high conflict cases, they'll rule for what is best for the kid(s).

Bottom line, judges don't really care about the petty s**t (I'm not saying it's all petty, but that is how they look at it) that goes on between the bio-parents. No matter how disruptive it is to you and your H, the judge only cares about how the behavior is affecting the skid(s).

Take it from someone that spent the first four years of her marriage watching her H go in and out of family court. Unless the BM is beating the kids, putting them in physical danger or neglecting them to the point their health is being affected, it's just not worth going to court. It rarely ends well for anyone except the high conflict parent. It's sucks up money, time and is an emotional burden on your marriage.

My H and I have paid a hefty price for his wanting to do the right thing. In the end, he regrets his decision to pursue custody because it had the same result as throwing a stick of dynamite into a pond. The fallout was horrible.

Compromise is the name of the game. Regardless of how good your H's case against the BM may be, do not be surprised if very little changes. It's very rare when we see big victories.

Toastergirl's picture

Sigh. I'm fairly certain you are right. We plan for this to be the last shot, because it's not worth going through it again.

Exjuliemccoy's picture

BM2 lied throughout the custody battle. She slandered DH dreadfully, but of course the judge never said boo about it. Just some of her claims:

- DH attacked & raped her. (We showed that DH had been at work in a secured building & local police hadn't believed her).
- DH was not the father (But had been paying cs for years. A simple DNA test & birth cert with his name on it exposed that particular lie).
- SD8 was terrified of DH and had told her school counselor that she would kill herself before seeing her father. (Subpoenaed counselor & school records, no such convo happened).

Oh, and she noshowed for court three separate times. That cost us $1500, plus travel and missed work. The judge awarded us $1100 - couldn't be too mean to the pretty ill crazy lady.

whoaminow's picture

BM lied and she is really good at it, so of course judge believes her. You know throw in a couple tears and when you lie all the time you get really good.

Monchichi's picture

Same way here. BM always wins. Unless you have a lot of money. Like pots of it.

Monchichi's picture

Jabba only knows how to lie. We are still wondering how the judge believed her expenses without a single invoice to prove it.

Tuff Noogies's picture

dumbass lied. in an effort to make herself not look like such a loser, she told the judge she had a degree. bitch barely graduated high school, let alone any college. judge told her "good, then you should have no problem finding a job." and then ordered she child support. not that she actually does, but i found it rather amusing.